Comité de pilotage

Description Rencontre des membres du Copil de Campus Cédille Drôme Provençale.

Début de l'événement 03.06.2025 - 14:00

Fin de l'événement 03.06.2025 - 16:00

Adresse rue ferdinand fert 26110 Nyons

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]]> Sat, 31 May 2025 16:12:16 +0200 Réunion de préparation du Salon Vivre ici CampusCedille

Réunion de préparation du Salon Vivre ici

Description Première rencontre des structures intéressées par une participation au Salon Vivre ici : étudier, travailler, habiter en Drôme provençale.

Début de l'événement 06.05.2025 - 09:00

Fin de l'événement 06.05.2025 - 12:00

Adresse Maison de Pays, 128 Promenade de la Digue

Code postal 26110

Ville Nyons

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]]> Wed, 23 Apr 2025 18:55:09 +0200 Big city, small world.

Big city, small world.

Description We Lived Separate Lives
We Were Living Like Roommates
The Real Reason You Haven't Found Your Perfect Partner
Why Aren't You Married? Facing Your Love Alibi
Ever Have A False Positive In Dating?
When Love Manifestation Turns Into Mani-Frustration
Are You Discounting Yourself In Love?
Ordering Love Like A Latte
Looking For A Quick Fix For Your Love Life?
Impatient for Mr. Right?

Over two years ago I dated this guy I blog-named Captain Awesome. We had a nice enough time -- 10 dates over a period of a month -- but it just didn't have the makings of a great romance, and things ended amicably.

The other night, my friend Q and I were comparing dating stories. She mentioned that she'd recently had four dates with some guy, but found him to be a bit whiny and negative -- for the sake of the story, she said his first name was "Captain".

I can't recall what made me ask his last name -- when I did, I was surprised to hear her say "Awesome". The very same Captain Awesome -- she met him on a dating site, as I did.

My first thought: wait! Didn't you meet him at my birthday party that year? Oh right -- she was out of the country and couldn't make it to the party.

Also, funnily enough -- I nearly brought him to one of her parties that year, but didn't in the end. Can't recall why -- could have been because she didn't have room for additional guests, or maybe simply because I felt that things were coming to an end, so I decided against it.

We wondered if we'd had any other dating overlap? So I dug through my notes...

... more on that next time!

Début de l'événement 15.04.2024

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]]> Tue, 15 Apr 2025 17:31:17 +0200 Date #156... and an apology.

Date #156... and an apology.

Description You're Never Too Old For True Love!
Why Dating Tips Aren’t Working for You
Turn Your Holiday Blues Into Real Love
Love Problems? Never Run From The Issue - Solve It
You Need Only One Man To Find True Love
Finding A Man Isn't The Answer
Why Can't Your Heart And Head Like The Same Person
Quit The Blame Game & Ditch Bad Relationship Behaviors For Good
Do You Have A Love Leak?
We Got Married Too Young
We Keep Tearing Each Other Down

This snowy weather is making me tired and lazy, so I'm going to make this short and sweet and get back to some quality TV-watching and Match-surfing!

Date #156: "Dominic"
Dominic was an English guy in my circle of friends in my 20s, and I had a HUGE crush on him for ages. We smooched once or twice, but it never went further than friendship.

This past weekend I had a brunch date with a British guy who now lives here in NY. I'm normally skeptical about a brunch date -- I generally think it's a good idea to have some darkness and booze to relax a bit around someone new -- but it seemed like it was the only time that worked for both of us. Let's-call-him-Dominic was smart and perfectly nice and had the kind of charming smile that I like -- but I'm just not sure the zing was there.

If I hear from him, I'd be happy to go out with him again -- if not, no harm done.

*
Shocker of the week -- I got this email from Mr 2010 (and since I don't particularly care if he discovers the blog, here it is in its entirety):

Hi, yes, I am safely alive, thanks. I'm really sorry about last Sunday. I don't have a worthy explanation... I barely got out of bed all day, and then when I saw your text it was already late and I felt like a big jerk. I've been trying to figure out how to talk to you about it since then, but not very successfully, obviously.

It's a longer, bigger story than I can do via email right now, but I've been a bit of a mess recently. It's not something I'd want to inflict on anyone else. I like you, but I have to deal with my crap right now. I hope you understand, and I hope you can forgive me for being such an inconsiderate ass.

I hope you're well. Thank you for the concern, too.

[Mr 2010]

So -- that's that. Better late than never, I suppose? Anyway, my main thought was: whew! Dodged THAT bullet.

I haven't felt a need to write back. Done.

Début de l'événement 14.04.2023

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]]> Mon, 14 Apr 2025 17:36:40 +0200 Date #129: the Guru
Date #129: the Guru

Description My Husband Nags Me About Being Overweight
My Husband Is Old-Fashioned and Sexist
My Husband's Drinking Is Ruining Our Marriage
My Infertility Is Ruining Our Marriage
My Sick Husband Got Better and Our Marriage Got Worse
My Stepdaughter Is Coming Between Us
Reasons Why Black Women Should Date Non-Black Men
Black Women | Black Families | Polyamory
The BS Confident Women Never Tolerate From Men
3 Things You Can Learn From My Failed Relationship
Things Men Say When We’re Just Running Dating Game
Why Is It So Hard to Be Friends With an Ex?
The Awkward Missing Piece of the New Dating Puzzle
Not EVERY First Date is a Winner…
Most Traumatizing First Kiss Ever

This was my first "first date" in over two months, and I was a bit nervous. The Guru and I had nearly missed each other, like the proverbial two ships in the night: we'd had a few encouraging e-mails via Match, until he said he was getting off the site, and to write to him at his real email address.

I did -- no response. I was a little surprised, but not so much -- it's not unusual for a Great Connection Guy to go MIA on the internet.

About a week ago, I got an alert that he wrote to me again via Match (I couldn't read the content, as I was no longer a paying member). Again, I wrote to him at his e-mail address. Nothing.

I finally did a bit of detective work, and discovered that I'd misspelled his e-mail address. Once I realized this, I let him know, and he quickly wrote back, and a date was planned. I couldn't help but think that if we hit it off, what a great story that would be -- the romance that almost didn't happen, thwarted by technology!

However, that was not to be.

My request to talk on the phone prior to the date was met with "I'm not much of a phone person, but ok...". We wound up leaving messages for one another, and went into the date un-talked. Had I talked to him beforehand, I might not have had to write to this e-mail to a friend immediately after the date:

So... the date with (Mr Guru): for one, those pics on his profile are really old. Two: he suggested we meet for Thai food, but when he showed up (about 20 minutes late) he revealed that he was doing a cleanse - why bother meeting me for dinner then? I ate real food, while he got a bowl of broth. I had beer, he had hot water with lemon. Three: when the check came, I did the polite "can I contribute?" offer -- he said, "ok, we can split it, even though mine was less". Um... okay...

He was a bit too New Agey for me. He's not of this coast, and has only been living here a few months. The word "tantric" was bandied about. Interesting to talk to from a sociological stance, but no chemistry at all.

Onward!

*
I recently stopped dating Martin because I felt it wasn't going anywhere, and I made a decision to actively seek a meaningful relationship. So why am I still dating Mr Easy, even though it doesn't feel like it has the makings of a great romance? Good question. It is easy, and we do have a good time. But is that enough? I think I need more time to figure it out.
Début de l'événement 02.04.2023
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]]> Wed, 02 Apr 2025 15:14:25 +0200 Surely, abducted by aliens
Surely, abducted by aliens

Description Marriage vs. Memories: Can We Declutter and Stay Together?
Marriage Under Stress: Navigating Parenthood and Mental Health
The Silent Strain: How Unspoken Needs Led to a Marriage Crisis
Marriage on the Rocks: Navigating the Challenges of Illness and Expectations
From Disconnect to Connection: Rebuilding Marriage After Fear and Fatigue
Living Together Was So Much Easier Than Being Married
The Ultimate Guide to Successful Online Dating
Smack and Marriage Don’t Mix
Why Dating Feels Like a Game and How to Win at It
How to Date Without Losing Yourself
How to Decide When Relationship Feels Platonic
Is Your Dating History A Dealbreaker?
Ratting Out a Cheater

Any guys out there – question for you. And women, of course I’d love your insight on this as well.

Background: Great Smile and I had what seemed to be a really nice, six-hour date last weekend. Fun, flowing conversation. Some very nice kisses.

A few days passed. No word from him. I decided to throw caution to the wind, sent a light, breezy e-mail, including some information he’d asked for on the date.

More days pass. Still nothing. Part of me got a bit worried – maybe something happened to him, run over by a garbage truck, perhaps? Well – unless someone else is logging onto J-date for him, he seems to be alive and well, considering he logged on today.

I get it. After only two dates, he certainly doesn’t “owe” me an explanation. And yet – how do you go from e-mailing almost every day for two weeks to NOTHING?

Common courtesy? Not so common, apparently, in the wonderful world of dating.

Sigh. Guys. I wrote this to CJ earlier today:
This "dropping of the face of the earth" thing -- I can understand if the guy is in his 20s. But this one is in his late 30s -- he should know better. Dillhole.

Her hilarious response:
I think dropping off the face of the earth knows no age. Only knows penis.

[DISCLAIMER: I’m certainly not putting ALL guys in that category – and yes, I know women can be flaky as well.]

Moving on! Currently in talks with some decent-sounding new J-guys. It remains to be seen if any of them push my buttons. Somehow, I remain optimistic.

UPDATE:
In a "why not" moment, I e-mailed Great Smile this morning -- asked if he'd want to get a drink next week, to "let me know either way".

He wrote back shortly after... apologized for not being in touch, and that while he had a nice time last weekend he's not "feeling the love, and doesn't want to waste anyone's time".

I wrote back simply, "thanks for the update, wish you the very best". Of course, what I really wanted to know was, WHY bother kissing me til 1 am if you're not "feeling the love"??! (unless of course, he thought he was going to get more than just a few kisses)

Anyway! Right now I have too many potential J-guys on my platter... I'm starting to forget what I've told to whom. Must take better notes.
Début de l'événement 28.03.2024
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]]> Fri, 28 Mar 2025 17:26:06 +0100 When it rains...
When it rains...

Description Marriage vs. Memories: Can We Declutter and Stay Together?
Marriage Under Stress: Navigating Parenthood and Mental Health
The Silent Strain: How Unspoken Needs Led to a Marriage Crisis
Marriage on the Rocks: Navigating the Challenges of Illness and Expectations
From Disconnect to Connection: Rebuilding Marriage After Fear and Fatigue
Living Together Was So Much Easier Than Being Married
The Ultimate Guide to Successful Online Dating
Smack and Marriage Don’t Mix
Why Dating Feels Like a Game and How to Win at It
How to Date Without Losing Yourself
How to Decide When Relationship Feels Platonic
Is Your Dating History A Dealbreaker?
Ratting Out a Cheater

Truly – when it rains, it pours. I have quite a few dates lined up in the near future – there’s a chance that I may become overwhelmed – or at the very least confused as far as what stories I’ve shared with whom. But at this point, I’m feeling quite flirty and non-committal, so my plan is to have fun while it lasts.

The current lineup:

Earlier this week, I went on my 106th first date since my last serious relationship ended three years ago. Date #106 was with Fun Bobby – it was a very easy-going, good time. I felt as if I’d known him for longer than the few hours we spent together – but I wonder if I’m projecting – he looks a little like my friend, Good Hair Guy. (I’ve given him this moniker of “Fun Bobby” because his profile indicates that he’s a little unsure if he’s looking for a serious relationship right now – I’ve considered myself warned!)

Within a few days he e-mailed to say he’d had a lovely time, and asked if I was free to get together again this weekend. Plans are in place.

Then there’s Good Voice – date number two is set for next week. I can’t help but compare him to TC, who was in limbo with his career, and felt that that translated to his overall life (including dating). GV is very much together – quite successful, in fact – and this is refreshing in comparison. I certainly would never date a guy just because he was well-off – but I feel that I’ve reached a certain level of success in my career, so it’s not unreasonable to want the same in a potential partner. (obviously, he has many other qualities that I like – otherwise, I wouldn’t be considering a second date with him!)

Another newbie is Neighbor Dude, who lives just a few blocks from me. Good connection so far via e-mail and during first phone convo – plans are in place for this weekend. It’s hard to get a read on his pics – one is rather attractive, the other, less so.

Then there’s U.N. – remember him, from last summer? We’ve been in touch recently, and have plans for a drink next week. I have a feeling this will be a platonic get-together – BUT I liked him as a person that last time (just didn’t feel that ‘zing’) – I’m willing to take another chance to see if there’s any chance of zing. If not, he’s the kind of person I could see keeping as a friend.

One more: the FOF – Friend of a Friend (note: I initially gave him a different name, but worried that it might be too identifying). Background: we had one date last month, but he said he needed more time “off” after his recent breakup. I respected that, and appreciated his honesty. I wrote to him recently with a work-related question – after a few e-mails, we made plans to meet for a drink next week. I’m going into this with the mindset that it may just be platonic – but if something were to happen? That would be a nice bonus – I can’t explain it, there’s something I like about this guy. Maybe it’s because we have a friend in common, which makes him less anonymous than the guys I meet through the internet?

Oh – I have my eye on one more: I’m going to call him McLovin. My friend C is friends with him, and thought he’d be my type – when I checked out his MySpace page, I immediately fell in “like” with his pictures (as much as a sane 30-something reasonably can!). Great head of hair, nice smile, that Jewish New York look that I tend to go for. I just need to get more info on him. (C, if you’re reading this – let’s discuss soon!) There may be a possibility of a group outing in the near future – less pressure that way.

More thoughts / details on serial dating to follow!
Début de l'événement 28.03.2022
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]]> Fri, 28 Mar 2025 16:56:25 +0100 THIS IS SERIOUS, SHE’S MY SOULMATE!
THIS IS SERIOUS, SHE’S MY SOULMATE!

Description Marriage vs. Addiction: Winning the Battle for Love
Marriage Without Intimacy: Can Love Survive the Distance?
Holding On or Letting Go: When Addiction Tests a Marriage
The Marriage We Almost Lost: How Unemployment Changed Everything
Marriage And Chaos: Finding Common Ground in Parenting
He Seemed Interested. So Why Didn’t He Call?
Online Dating Isn’t Desperation
Changing Your Dating Approach
Why Modern Dating is More Complicated Than Ever
Dating Someone With Debt
Marriage vs. Parenthood: Life After Having a Baby
The Fine Line Between Casual Dating and Commitment
How to Handle the Truth After Discovering a Betray

So……yeaaaaah. Really strange night. I mean, his whole idea is like ‘if you can successfully control yourself and — somehow — turn around a situation where people just fucking hate you on principle….what can stop you?’ Anyway…it was a really weird night. As you can imagine….my AA was in serious overdrive. Ted forced me into a set two girls, three guys, and it was fucking ridiculous. Liiiiike, there was this raunchy auburn haired cowgirl who probably called me a nigger like a bajillion times, and I mean….I just didn’t know how to handle it. She also asked insane questions, like ‘how big is your cock?’ ‘would you like me to suck that nigger dick?’ She was a 5…but the set was mixed, so I had literally NO CLUE how to fucking handle it. I was a Scraymouse.

Ted is some sort of insane person. Like…one of the dudes at one point was like ‘this goddamned anchor baby beaner,’ and Ted throws his head back, ‘yeah, all right, gomer pyle, bob hope eat a dick whoever the fuck you are…’ and everyone laughed their asses off.

My question now….I mean, that was an extremely uncomfortable environment for me. But at the same time…like, Ted just handled it like a goddamned champion. Is there something to his theory, or is Ted insane…or both?

Saturday:

I lost my ID at CW bar. I was planning on not going out, but there was an event at a club that 90% of the school social circle were attending. So…why not? I snag a paper copy of my driver’s license from my job and just decide to run a gambit.

It works, and I get in to the club with everyone else.

Only one set, and really, it’s a girl I somewhat know already. She’s been with two of the guys in my social circle already. She’s like a 6.5. I talk with her at the bar. So, my new thing that I’ve been trying out has been break-up/make-up. It goes really well with ‘I love you.’

Earlier, I had told her friend that I was going to spread a rumor that she was engaged to an Argentenian wiffle ball player named Rodrigo. So, I tell 6.5 to make sure she goes back to her friend and asks about Rodrigo. Then I just am like, also, tell your friend that I’m in crazy mad crazy love with her. And 6.5 laughs, and I’m like ‘THIS IS SERIOUS, SHE’S MY SOULMATE!’ Her eyes widen, and she nods.
Début de l'événement 27.03.2022
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]]> Thu, 27 Mar 2025 17:34:48 +0100 Making New Friends Leads to All Sorts of Opportunities
Making New Friends Leads to All Sorts of Opportunities

Description His Ex is Ruining Our Marriage
Balancing Step-Parenting and Marital Harmony
Rebuilding a Marriage in the Sandwich Generation Squeeze
A Marriage Tested by Cancer
His Business Crashed — And So Did Our Marriage
Dating a Recovering Alcoholic
Is It Weird to Date a Relative?
His Cheatin’ Heart
What’s Our Relationship Status?
Should You Give an Ex a Second Chance?
Long-Distance Love vs. Local Connection
Trust in a Strained Marriage: Letters in the Attic
Dating Rules: Smart Strategy or Outdated Nonsense?

I have a theory that if all the people who note on their dating profiles that they "love to take long walks on the beach" actually took them, there would be no need for dating services. They'd meet other people who love taking long walks on the beach, and who knows where that would lead.

But if you hate taking long walks on the beach, surely you like doing other things. So do them. Even if it's knitting, join a group and go. You don't know who's mother or sister is going to befriend you there.

My friend, Kristen, is a writer (among other things) who took to working from a table at Panera Bread over a year ago. Since she's hardly alone in this, she's since met a commercial artist, a doctor/astrologer (yes!), another writer, and most recently "two really cute guys who know all about computers." Kristen's married, so she's not in the market to meet two really cute guys, but surely somebody else is.

If time constraints prevent you from hanging out in coffee shops, don't despair. I made two lasting friends in other countries through Irish Penpals, a free service that connects you with other people of either sex (your choice, and nobody has to be Irish).

At the time I joined, I spent most winter days trapped in the house with two toddlers and was eager to "meet" a new international friend. I've been writing to Elaine in Manchester, England and Petra in Germany ever since.

Irish Penpals reports that at least one marriage has resulted from the service.

Viveca Stone-Berry, who founded Dog Captions cards with her photographer brother Richard H. Stone, recommends that you make a friend of a serviceperson through A Million Thanks (http://www.amillionthanks.org).

If you express your appreciation to someone in our military, you'll be doing a good and worthwhile thing. Good and worthwhile things often lead to more good and worthwhile things -- one way or another.
Début de l'événement 25.03.2024
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]]> Tue, 25 Mar 2025 17:56:37 +0100 My Morning Routine
My Morning Routine

Description Surviving a Long-Term Affair and Saving a Marriage
Transforming Communication and Parenting in a Troubled Marriage
Healing a Marriage by Confronting Insecurities and Building Trust
Religious Differences and Strengthening Marriage Bonds
The Affection Gap: Bridging Emotional Distance in a Long-Term Marriage
Workplace Dating Detours
When Blind Dates Go Wrong
Comfort Vs. Fulfillment In Modern Dating
Demanding Respect and Openness in a Relationship
Get Outta My Dating Pool
Seeking Clarity and Connection in Dating
Gym Flirting 101
Finding Balance in Love After Loss

I wanted to share with you how I start my day. I have already discussed that I am not a morning person. I do not enjoy getting up before the sun does. I do not enjoy getting out of my warm bed, crawling from under my giant down comforter and putting on cold clothes. I hate my feet being cold and getting out of bed means cold feet...therefore I'm not happy about it. I usually set my alarm for as late as humanly possible, making it impossible to snooze my alarm. I drag myself out of bed, use the bathroom, brush my teeth, re-scrunch my curly crazy hair, throw on the first set of jeans and t-shirt combo I come across, socks and shoes follow. I throw on a hoodie and grab my huge coach purse (seriously carpet bag sized with EVERYTHING in it) and then head for the door. I grumble a good morning to my grandmother and then brave the cold fall weather as I trudge to the car port.

That is me, every week day morning. I don't have to dress up to nanny. I don't have to be all dolled up. Usually I appreciate this as it allows me extra sleep time. I always have makeup necessities in my purse so sometimes I'll do up my makeup once at work. Sometimes I dress up if I have plans right after work...but these days are rare. Normally I save my makeup and my nice clothes for weekends and that's just fine with me.

Anyway, the point of this blog was to share with you something I DON'T do. I don't pay any attention to my mirror. I rarely give myself a good look, let alone take in the lovingly laminated and posted quotes on my mirror. I am mad at myself for this. I put them there for a reason. These affirmations were meant to start my day right, everyday. To send me to bed in the right frame of mind, every night. I don't do this anymore and this is my self scolding.

I had one of those day by day flip calenders and when they struck me I would rip them off and keep them in a folder for when I needed inspiration. I would write them down in a journal just for quotes from movies, songs, etc that moved me. At one point these words were so important to me that I felt I should see them everyday...so why did I stop paying attention?

Here is what I am talking about:

I don't think I have to say why this quote means a lot to me. I know it's kind of cheesy to have this on my mirror, but I really do believe in these words. I think it's important to remember to not waste the time we are given, to make sure our day means something, that we mean something to somebody else every single day. It reminds me to say, "I love you" every time I feel it and to say "thank you" every time I mean it.

Alright, the top quote was put up there in a rough time. I was quitting my corporate job for nannying, contemplating going back to school, terrified to really make a go at writing, and wondering where the heck my life was going. It was important for me to remember that my parents weren't going to be thrilled I was throwing away my degree to nanny. And that my grandmother would probably never get to read half of my writing as she'd be horrified at most of what I have to say. I had to remember that if I was happy then that's all that really mattered.

The bottom quote is meaningful because I need to remember that if I want to succeed, if I want to move forward in life that I need to try new things. That I need to make the first step and without fear of where it will take me, to live in the moment. Honestly it really is just a rewording of the quote underneath.

This quote was and still is important in making me overcome my everyday fears that seek to hold me back. The same fears I wrote about in "My Largest Obstacle: Myself". I have to remind myself non stop to getting in my own way. To just do it, do it because I can, and not worry about where it might go. It's important to remember that I can't always be perfect, I can't be great at everything, but I can sure as shit try.

So here it is. I just blogged on being more present, being more aware of the world around me, more engaged. So, how is it that I am ignoring things that stare me in the face everyday, several times a day!? I guess the task starts at home. I'm going to try and take more time in the morning to be more aware of these quotes, to go back to repeating them out loud and making sure I really "see" them.

That is my promise to myself, and if I say it out loud...or write it out loud to all of you then you will hold me to it. You will yell at me in comments to "READ YOUR DAMN QUOTES JEWELS!" and that will keep me honest and real about my task to stay more present in my own life.
Début de l'événement 24.03.2023
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]]> Mon, 24 Mar 2025 17:36:22 +0100 What’s in a marital status, anyway?
What’s in a marital status, anyway?

Description He Went to War and Came Back a Changed Man
Unmasking Hidden Unhappiness in Marriage
Workaholic Heartbreak: When Success Costs Your Marriage
Recession Realities: When Financial Stress Tests a Marriage
When Unemployment Tests Marriage
Movies That All Women Should See To Understand Men
Love Lies and Responsibility
The Dating Mishaps of the Ladies of Love Twenty
The Black Male Preference Privilege
Anatomy of a Great (Reality) Relationship
Your Rear End or Your Pride
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
(Broken) Laws of Attraction

“When are you getting married?”

“You have a new boyfriend yet?”

“Don’t you feel alone on weekends?”

Being single in a couple’s word is not easy. I wonder why people keep judging others so much by their marital status. Yes, singles are on the rise, more people are getting divorced and more and more people are now considering the fact of living and staying alone. Yet it’s still a couple’s world out there, and many still believe that single = looser. But who says us singles can’t enjoy life? There is so much to look to when you’re alone. Being single is ME time and should be enjoyed to the fullest. So don’t fall into the ‘I have to get married’ mindset and start appreciating what life has to offer, with or without a partner.
Début de l'événement 20.03.2022
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]]> Thu, 20 Mar 2025 17:11:12 +0100 The Importance of Date Nights: Prioritizing Your Relationship
The Importance of Date Nights: Prioritizing Your Relationship

Description He Had an Affair Because I Stopped Initiating Sex
He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat
He Lost Interest in Our Marriage
Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job
He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I'm Sick of It
Commitment Jitters
Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance
Bi Bi Love
Dealing With Your Partner’s Bedroom Confessions
Can His Squalor Be Squelched?
Asunder Down Under
Conquering Long Distance Dating
Coveting a Coworker

Cali Bradshaw
October 28, 2011 at 3:26 am #
Aw Kelsey, you are the best! You know, it’s funny, but when people leave harsh comments, I doubt they realize how hurtful they actually are. When I write a saucy post, it isn’t about one person, or it isn’t addressed to that one person at least. But when I get personal comments, it makes my tummy hurt a little bc people who don’t know me at all, are making comments about who I am as a person. At the end of the day, this blog is supposed to be fun, so when someone tells me that I need to get over myself or I’ll be single in my 30s, (and that is not nearly as mean as many comments) it really bums me out. But when I then see that I have a reader (you!) defend me, when you don’t even know me, seriously makes my night. Thank you for making me smile and reminding me that I am not alone in wishing for a quality man. XO. -Cali

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Kelsey
October 29, 2011 at 12:40 am #
Ever so welcome. I dislike posts started just for the sake of causing drama. This is not high school. Believe me, I know, because I’m still in one half the day. :P

Haha aw to be young again! I wish I was still in HS. Those were the days!

Norwegian blend
Well, honestly I think you were a bit unfair yourself. While it is not ok to make assumptions about you (or anyone else for the sake of being), the post that you’ve just made may easily be interpreted as provocative. You clearly addressed a whole lot of guys in that post, the ones that frequently use abbreviations and emoticons after which you described them in a derogatory manner, making comparisons to being twelve years old.
Début de l'événement 18.03.2024
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]]> Tue, 18 Mar 2025 17:44:25 +0100 How to Handle Different Parenting Styles Without Destroying Your Marriage
How to Handle Different Parenting Styles Without Destroying Your Marriage

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So that leads to proportionate to income paying on dates, more or less. Any time a guy pays more than that post bang, he’s signaling he’s a beta provider type guy, and makes himself less sexually attractive to her. Maybe attractive as a good dad, but as for me, no thanks.

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Mr. Traditional
April 6, 2011 at 2:44 pm #
As a man I always expect to pay for dates – and for the most part that is how I like it. My rule is: I offer to pay, or just go to pay it. If the girl offers to pay I appreciate it and pay it anyway. If she insists twice – she pays it.

I don’t like it if the girl reads the check. If I’m paying, it is a gift because I like you, so the cost should not be a concern for her.

Some women insist on splitting everything or on alternating who pays. I’ll tolerate the alternation thing – but I don’t like it.

I won’t tolerate check splitting on a regular basis. It is unsexy to be splitting things down to the dollar level like that.

I like feminine women which is why I like paying for dinner dates. I know it makes you feel special – so it is my pleasure to treat you.

And of course I do the asking, I open doors for you, I buy you nice things on valentine’s day, your birthday, and christmas. I pay for our weekend getaways.
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]]> Mon, 17 Mar 2025 16:46:26 +0100 Is It Easier for Single Dads to Date Than Single Moms
Is It Easier for Single Dads to Date Than Single Moms

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And lastly, I have been on dates with women who are seriously only out there dating for free meals/drinks and I think of these women as escorts without the putting out part. And those women are giving other women a bad name because it’s making more men in my generation wary of paying because we wonder if the girl is only going out with us to get a meal because she has no self respect.

One girl I went out with, we had our date and she actually whipped out her wallet and demanded to pay her 50%. She thought it was bullshit that women expected men to pay, and she wasn’t a whore.

Maybe she just didn’t want to sleep with me, but I was surprised when she said, “please don’t fight with me on this one, let me pay my half.”

Sad because we had no connection or spark. But she was super cool.

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Cali Bradshaw
March 21, 2011 at 8:27 pm #
Ah yes, let me clarify, once you are in relationship land – that is a different story. And I think that has a different set of rules for each couple. This is purely in regards to the beginning dating/courtship. Sounds like you are a classy guy though, so really you don’t need this advice!

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Ricky
March 21, 2011 at 8:39 pm #
Chivalry is a definite lost act, though in the changing climate I feel there should be a class given on how to date in today’s world.
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]]> Fri, 14 Mar 2025 16:27:18 +0100 Why Women Say Men Don’t Communicate While Men Say Women Overthink
Why Women Say Men Don’t Communicate While Men Say Women Overthink

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I once saw a cat try its damnedest to murder a nun. The cat, with whom I eventually formed a synergistic, if not loving, relationship due to long term co-habitation, was an asshole, but he was an entertaining asshole, and never did learn that if he concentrated on chasing the laser pointer, he wouldn’t notice that he was gaiting full tilt towards the wall.

But he was an asshole. Face it ladies, all cats are, even the girl ones. Which is why it is time for you all to face facts: no matter what we say to women of the world, us boys do not like your cats. Whats that, you say? Every boy you’ve ever brought home has said he liked Mr. Fluffykins? You can’t possibly be that naive. He was trying to get to your kitty through your pussy.

Boys don’t like cats. Case in point, you’ve never met one who owns one who wasn’t at least a bit… off. Cats don’t even like cats. What, you have two? Maybe they’ll put on a little pussy-on-pussy show to get a treat, but the minute your back is turned sister, it’s all fur and fangs, and not in a good way.
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]]> Tue, 11 Mar 2025 17:38:36 +0100 You have a great attitude, girl.
You have a great attitude, girl.

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Emily Macintosh5 years ago
You have a great attitude, girl. But really not to worry, there’s a good chance there will be some PFC Macintosh Jr.’s running around in the not too distant future. Just have to make it over to the west side at some point to make it happen. I agree with Kelly and clj to a point. Perhaps having your own biological children is not in the cards for everyone, but for those who have the desire, fostering/adoption/big bro or sis is a wonderful way to literally save a child’s life while also fulfilling a need that resides in almost every soul. In my younger years back east, I was a big brother to two boys who lived in dreadful circumstances. As stupid as this sounds, I was inspired by the a cliche movie that Keanu Reeves did way back when about an inner city little league team. Right then I decided to get off my ass and give back a little. It was a most rewarding experience and I got to help two kids through an otherwise unguided adolescence, coach some baseball and just try to help two kids have a semblance of childhood as I knew it. It would be arrogant to compare it to parenting, but I now have two little brothers for life and Lord knows it’s been rewarding beyond description. For me, the experience affirmed a belief that, should biological children not be in the cards, I could love and raise a child that was not my own biologically just the same. In some ways, a child you take in will be even be more rewarding and more bonded than a biological child, because those children will eventually know exactly what was lost and what they have gained. So my travel schedule and insatiable enjoyment of the fairer sex has not been conducive to starting a family as yet, but it just goes to show that many people, even some you might not suspect, have a lot to give to the unwanted children in this world. Where I diverge in my opinion with clj and Kelly is that, for the vast majority of people, they can tell themselves all they want about a fulfilling life without children; however the cold reality is that 99% of us want/need the companionship of a family, the laughter of children, the unconditional love that goes two ways and fulfillment you simply cannot get without it. You can be a big brother, you can be a cool aunt, you can be an inspiring teacher – but none of these things is a substitute for what the soul really needs. Emily, I always champion your efforts at love, and every yo yo who reads this blog knows you are the real deal. So I’m not worried about you as much as you might be right now. Things will turn your way and will happen quickly when they do. Maybe even with your boy Single Steve, but more likely with PFC, or a reasonable facsimile. Keep on truckin’ Em.
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]]> Tue, 25 Feb 2025 10:39:41 +0100 Dating Apps and Mental Health Are We Swiping Ourselves into Anxiety
Dating Apps and Mental Health Are We Swiping Ourselves into Anxiety

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Feels like people rather stand in front of 3-4 different paths scared to walk down any one fearing they may miss out the treasures of the other paths. But you can’t walk down all 3 as far as you want to find anything good (unless sex is the only good) so you have to pick one at some point. Some do this sooner then later.

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DrivingMeNutes Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 1:40 pm
If commitment weren’t scary, it wouldn’t be commitment. The word implies sacrifice of something of consequence. What you’re describing is a “trial period” with a money back guarantee, ie the exact opposite of commitment. I agree, if there’s nothing really invested then there’s no real harm when things go badly. Why are we even discussing this then?

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January 16th, 2012 at 2:27 pm
I think committing early is scary because you really don’t know the other person too well, they say it takes a few months for people to truly relax and be themselves and then you find out what their real personality is like.

Carina, I am not a sleep with people frivolously person either, but neither will I ever expect someone will commit to me within a week. I agree with Moxie that he “committed” to get what he wanted. He may do it with everyone.

Just be careful and keep your eyes open and don’t make any huge life altering decisions this early in the game.

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