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2ème rencontre des partenaires

2ème rencontre des partenaires

Description La deuxième rencontre des partenaires et futurs partenaires du projet aura lieu à Nyons, au siège de la Communauté de communes des Baronnies en Drôme provençale. L'invitation est ouverte : si vous souhaitez y participer, faites-le nous savoir.
Début de l'événement 05.12.2024 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement 05.12.2024 - 17:00
Adresse 170 rue Ferdinand Fert
Code postal 26110
Ville Nyons
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Are You Experienced or Exasperated?

Are You Experienced or Exasperated?

Description Ladies We Need Answers
The Difference Between Girls and Women
On Dating: Experienced or Just Plain Damaged?
A Chosen Season: On Being Single in My Late 20s
The Painful Friends With Benefits Cycle
10 Reasons Why You Might Still Be Single
The Things Women Say That Piss Off Men
Challenges Of A Male Relationship Blogger
Why Relationships Commitment Scares Me
The Dumbest Arguments Couples Have
Don’t Tell Me Where To Be Romantic!
Tickle Me Cheater

No, I was talking to Tood. Hence the “you” and not “y’all”

Are you familar with the plural form of “you”?

As in:

“That said, I’m rather skeptical that any of you are at all like Epoxy. ”

Oh! You must have meant the multiple cloned versions of Tood that he keeps around him as an entourage.

Please enlighten me to my heaps of lies.

I’m sure A.J. Travis has the information in his files. In fact, I’m on the phone with him now as I type…


The Fifth Horseman PERMALINK
October 21, 2009 1:06 pm
PA,

Can’t comment about Obs, Epx or Tup., but in your case, don’t you mean “solid rep of knowing about sexbots”?

A drive-by, eh? You are a pretty fragile little man, it appears.

Suffice it to say, I have more direct experience with women than you, and it is clear that both you and I know it.


PA PERMALINK
October 21, 2009 1:18 pm
Suffice it to say, I have more direct experience with women than you, and it is clear that both you and I know it.

Funny thing is, until you mentioned that you are 35, I figured you for a nerdy college-aged kid. Your comments reek of earnest overcompensation and utter cluelessness about women.
Début de l'événement 12.12.2021
Fin de l'événement 12.12.2021
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Atelier #4 "Stratégie de com & Linkedin" Campus Cédille, à Buis-les-Baronnies

Atelier #4 "Stratégie de com & Linkedin" Campus Cédille, à Buis-les-Baronnies

Description Dans le cadre de la dynamique Campus Cédille Enclave des Papes Drôme provençale, le collectif propose des ateliers* pour les dirigeants.

Cette autre journée d'atelier a pour but de poser un regard détaché sur votre stratégie de communication, de marketing RH / pédagogique et les bonnes pratiques associé à l'utilisation du réseau LinkedIn.

Les objectifs de cette journée spécifique sont :

1/ Diagnostic flash de votre communication
2/ Stratégie de communication 360 degrés
3/ Bonnes pratiques LinkedIn

  • *Ces ateliers sont financés par le dispositif DEFFINOV AURA de la Région et de l'Union Européenne en faveur des innovations et coopérations entre organismes de formation, tiers-lieux et acteurs économiques publics et privés des territoires.

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Début de l'événement 15.04.2025 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement 15.04.2025 - 12:30
Adresse Salle de l'Auditoire, rue de la Commune
Code postal 26170
Ville Buis les Baronnies
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Atelier #5 "Ingénierie et marketing pédagogique" Campus Cédille, à Maison des Assos Nyons

Atelier #5 "Ingénierie et marketing pédagogique" Campus Cédille, à Maison des Assos Nyons

Description Dans le cadre de la dynamique Campus Cédille Enclave des Papes Drôme provençale, le collectif propose des ateliers pour les dirigeants.

Cette autre journée d'atelier a pour but de poser un regard détaché sur votre ingénierie pédagogique, votre marketing / communication sur le sujet et les moyens de les améliorer avec d'autres partenaires du territoire ou d'ailleurs

Les objectifs de cette journée spécifique sont :

1/ Diagnostic flash de votre ingénierie pédagogique
2/ Stratégie de communication et marketing pédagogique / RH
3/ Bonnes pratiques
Ces ateliers sont financés par le dispositif DEFFINOV AURA de la Région et de l'Union Européenne en faveur des innovations et coopérations entre organismes de formation, tiers-lieux et acteurs économiques publics et privés des territoires.
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Début de l'événement 26.05.2025 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement 26.05.2025 - 12:30
Adresse Maison des Associations, 29 rue Draye de Meyne
Code postal 26110
Ville Nyons
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Atelier #6 "Tiers-lieu éducatif" Campus Cédille, Maison du Parc Sahune

Atelier #6 "Tiers-lieu éducatif" Campus Cédille, Maison du Parc Sahune

Description Dans le cadre de la dynamique Campus Cédille Enclave des Papes Drôme provençale, le collectif propose des ateliers pour les dirigeants.
Cette autre journée d'atelier a pour but de poser un regard détaché sur votre lieu d'accueil des personnels et des publics, de s'interroger sur les possibilités d'en faire un tiers-lieu (comprendre lieu partagé conciliant plusieurs activités / structures / publics) et de faire territoire autour de ce projet d'innovation collective

Les objectifs de cette journée spécifique sont :

1/ Diagnostic flash de votre lieu
2/ Stratégie de programmation et d'animation du lieu
3/ Bonnes pratiques de tiers-lieu apprenant et/ou éducatif
Ces ateliers sont financés par le dispositif DEFFINOV AURA de la Région et de l'Union Européenne en faveur des innovations et coopérations entre organismes de formation, tiers-lieux et acteurs économiques publics et privés des territoires.

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Début de l'événement 30.06.2025 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement 30.06.2025 - 17:00
Adresse Maison du Parc Naturel Régional
Code postal 26510
Ville Sahune
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Ateliers #1-2-3 "Stratégie Dirigeants" Campus Cédille, Campus Connecté Valréas

Ateliers #1-2-3 "Stratégie Dirigeants" Campus Cédille, Campus Connecté Valréas

Description Dans le cadre de la dynamique Campus Cédille Enclave des Papes Drôme provençale, le collectif propose des ateliers* pour les dirigeants.

La première journée d'ateliers a pour but de poser un regard détaché sur votre stratégie, votre marché, votre organisation, puis d'analyser en quoi le "jeu collectif" peut-il permettre d'avancer plus loin, plus fort, différemment par des actions de coopérations économiques à discerner ensemble.

Les objectifs de cette journée spécifique sont :
1/ Prendre du recul sur sa vision à 5-10 ans (atelier 1)
2/ Elaborer sa stratégie de communication (atelier 2)
3/ Engager la dynamique de modernisation : planifier des temps d'ateliers (formation-action) sur la période de mars à juin 2025 auprès des équipes pédagogiques pour faire de chacun un "ambassadeur & producteur de contenus pédagogiques". (atelier 3)
*Ces ateliers sont financés par le dispositif DEFFINOV AURA de la Région et de l'Union Européenne en faveur des innovations et coopérations entre organismes de formation, tiers-lieux et acteurs économiques publics et privés des territoires.
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Début de l'événement 18.03.2025 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement 18.03.2025 - 17:00
Adresse Campus Connecté, 17a rue de Tourville
Code postal 84600
Ville Valréas
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Big city, small world.

Big city, small world.

Description We Lived Separate Lives
We Were Living Like Roommates
The Real Reason You Haven't Found Your Perfect Partner
Why Aren't You Married? Facing Your Love Alibi
Ever Have A False Positive In Dating?
When Love Manifestation Turns Into Mani-Frustration
Are You Discounting Yourself In Love?
Ordering Love Like A Latte
Looking For A Quick Fix For Your Love Life?
Impatient for Mr. Right?

Over two years ago I dated this guy I blog-named Captain Awesome. We had a nice enough time -- 10 dates over a period of a month -- but it just didn't have the makings of a great romance, and things ended amicably.

The other night, my friend Q and I were comparing dating stories. She mentioned that she'd recently had four dates with some guy, but found him to be a bit whiny and negative -- for the sake of the story, she said his first name was "Captain".

I can't recall what made me ask his last name -- when I did, I was surprised to hear her say "Awesome". The very same Captain Awesome -- she met him on a dating site, as I did.

My first thought: wait! Didn't you meet him at my birthday party that year? Oh right -- she was out of the country and couldn't make it to the party.

Also, funnily enough -- I nearly brought him to one of her parties that year, but didn't in the end. Can't recall why -- could have been because she didn't have room for additional guests, or maybe simply because I felt that things were coming to an end, so I decided against it.

We wondered if we'd had any other dating overlap? So I dug through my notes...

... more on that next time!
Début de l'événement 15.04.2024
Fin de l'événement 15.04.2024
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Comité de pilotage

Comité de pilotage

Description Rencontre des membres du Copil de Campus Cédille Drôme Provençale.
Début de l'événement 03.06.2025 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement 03.06.2025 - 16:00
Adresse rue ferdinand fert 26110 Nyons
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Date #129: the Guru

Date #129: the Guru

Description My Husband Nags Me About Being Overweight
My Husband Is Old-Fashioned and Sexist
My Husband's Drinking Is Ruining Our Marriage
My Infertility Is Ruining Our Marriage
My Sick Husband Got Better and Our Marriage Got Worse
My Stepdaughter Is Coming Between Us
Reasons Why Black Women Should Date Non-Black Men
Black Women | Black Families | Polyamory
The BS Confident Women Never Tolerate From Men
3 Things You Can Learn From My Failed Relationship
Things Men Say When We’re Just Running Dating Game
Why Is It So Hard to Be Friends With an Ex?
The Awkward Missing Piece of the New Dating Puzzle
Not EVERY First Date is a Winner…
Most Traumatizing First Kiss Ever

This was my first "first date" in over two months, and I was a bit nervous. The Guru and I had nearly missed each other, like the proverbial two ships in the night: we'd had a few encouraging e-mails via Match, until he said he was getting off the site, and to write to him at his real email address.

I did -- no response. I was a little surprised, but not so much -- it's not unusual for a Great Connection Guy to go MIA on the internet.

About a week ago, I got an alert that he wrote to me again via Match (I couldn't read the content, as I was no longer a paying member). Again, I wrote to him at his e-mail address. Nothing.

I finally did a bit of detective work, and discovered that I'd misspelled his e-mail address. Once I realized this, I let him know, and he quickly wrote back, and a date was planned. I couldn't help but think that if we hit it off, what a great story that would be -- the romance that almost didn't happen, thwarted by technology!

However, that was not to be.

My request to talk on the phone prior to the date was met with "I'm not much of a phone person, but ok...". We wound up leaving messages for one another, and went into the date un-talked. Had I talked to him beforehand, I might not have had to write to this e-mail to a friend immediately after the date:

So... the date with (Mr Guru): for one, those pics on his profile are really old. Two: he suggested we meet for Thai food, but when he showed up (about 20 minutes late) he revealed that he was doing a cleanse - why bother meeting me for dinner then? I ate real food, while he got a bowl of broth. I had beer, he had hot water with lemon. Three: when the check came, I did the polite "can I contribute?" offer -- he said, "ok, we can split it, even though mine was less". Um... okay...

He was a bit too New Agey for me. He's not of this coast, and has only been living here a few months. The word "tantric" was bandied about. Interesting to talk to from a sociological stance, but no chemistry at all.

Onward!

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I recently stopped dating Martin because I felt it wasn't going anywhere, and I made a decision to actively seek a meaningful relationship. So why am I still dating Mr Easy, even though it doesn't feel like it has the makings of a great romance? Good question. It is easy, and we do have a good time. But is that enough? I think I need more time to figure it out.
Début de l'événement 02.04.2023
Fin de l'événement 02.04.2023
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Date #156... and an apology.

Date #156... and an apology.

Description You're Never Too Old For True Love!
Why Dating Tips Aren’t Working for You
Turn Your Holiday Blues Into Real Love
Love Problems? Never Run From The Issue - Solve It
You Need Only One Man To Find True Love
Finding A Man Isn't The Answer
Why Can't Your Heart And Head Like The Same Person
Quit The Blame Game & Ditch Bad Relationship Behaviors For Good
Do You Have A Love Leak?
We Got Married Too Young
We Keep Tearing Each Other Down

This snowy weather is making me tired and lazy, so I'm going to make this short and sweet and get back to some quality TV-watching and Match-surfing!

Date #156: "Dominic"
Dominic was an English guy in my circle of friends in my 20s, and I had a HUGE crush on him for ages. We smooched once or twice, but it never went further than friendship.

This past weekend I had a brunch date with a British guy who now lives here in NY. I'm normally skeptical about a brunch date -- I generally think it's a good idea to have some darkness and booze to relax a bit around someone new -- but it seemed like it was the only time that worked for both of us. Let's-call-him-Dominic was smart and perfectly nice and had the kind of charming smile that I like -- but I'm just not sure the zing was there.

If I hear from him, I'd be happy to go out with him again -- if not, no harm done.

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Shocker of the week -- I got this email from Mr 2010 (and since I don't particularly care if he discovers the blog, here it is in its entirety):

Hi, yes, I am safely alive, thanks. I'm really sorry about last Sunday. I don't have a worthy explanation... I barely got out of bed all day, and then when I saw your text it was already late and I felt like a big jerk. I've been trying to figure out how to talk to you about it since then, but not very successfully, obviously.

It's a longer, bigger story than I can do via email right now, but I've been a bit of a mess recently. It's not something I'd want to inflict on anyone else. I like you, but I have to deal with my crap right now. I hope you understand, and I hope you can forgive me for being such an inconsiderate ass.

I hope you're well. Thank you for the concern, too.

[Mr 2010]


So -- that's that. Better late than never, I suppose? Anyway, my main thought was: whew! Dodged THAT bullet.

I haven't felt a need to write back. Done.
Début de l'événement 14.04.2023
Fin de l'événement 14.04.2023
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Dating Apps and Mental Health Are We Swiping Ourselves into Anxiety

Dating Apps and Mental Health Are We Swiping Ourselves into Anxiety

Description I Travel The World. Alone.
An Internal Monologue While Perusing Online Dating Matches
How To Hook Up In A Hostel есть 100 дубликат на frisky
How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Vacation Together?
How To Enjoy Travelling When You’re Not On Your Honeymoon
I Fantasize About Other Men
Why It’s Easier To Meet Men On Vacation есть 100 дубликат на frisky
If You’re 300,000 Miles Away, Don’t Call Your New Man
Will Our Marriage Survive Our First Road Trip Together?
When On Vacation ... Just Say Yes

Feels like people rather stand in front of 3-4 different paths scared to walk down any one fearing they may miss out the treasures of the other paths. But you can’t walk down all 3 as far as you want to find anything good (unless sex is the only good) so you have to pick one at some point. Some do this sooner then later.

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DrivingMeNutes Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 1:40 pm
If commitment weren’t scary, it wouldn’t be commitment. The word implies sacrifice of something of consequence. What you’re describing is a “trial period” with a money back guarantee, ie the exact opposite of commitment. I agree, if there’s nothing really invested then there’s no real harm when things go badly. Why are we even discussing this then?

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myself Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 2:27 pm
I think committing early is scary because you really don’t know the other person too well, they say it takes a few months for people to truly relax and be themselves and then you find out what their real personality is like.

Carina, I am not a sleep with people frivolously person either, but neither will I ever expect someone will commit to me within a week. I agree with Moxie that he “committed” to get what he wanted. He may do it with everyone.

Just be careful and keep your eyes open and don’t make any huge life altering decisions this early in the game.

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Début de l'événement 21.02.2022
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Examining Gendered Labels in Sexuality

Examining Gendered Labels in Sexuality

Description A Few Thoughts on Conflict in Dating
Why Trying to "Be More Feminine or Masculine" is a Trap
"Not Good Enough"
Chasing After Instant Chemistry is Foolish
Does Longevity in the Past = Mature Dater Today?
Are You Really Prepared for a Relationship?
Guys Don’t Want to Date “One of The Guys”
Things I Have Learned About Dating
Fear in Dating and Relationships
Does the Person You're Dating Make You Smile
Marrige and Happiness
Is Your Resolution to Find Love in the New Year?
Disappearing Dates

Clearly, I was suggesting that there is no reason to dedicate a day to celebrating or taking pride in one’s sexual orientation.

And people told you why this was stupid (to reiterate, because bisexual people have been told that their bisexuality is something to be ashamed of, so celebrating bisexual pride is a way to overcome that). You responded by pretending that no one addressed your points, so perhaps you can understand why people aren’t taking you seriously.

Try reading Foucault on how persecution and medicalization creates a sense of sexuality as group identity, and then get back to me.

Try reading Foucault on how persecution and medicalization creates a sense of sexuality as group identity, and then get back to me.

I don’t take Continental philosophy very seriously, so I don’t expect I’ll be getting back to you any time soon.
You ask for answers, and then you reject the ones you get, because the entire continent of Europe has not produced any thought worth your attention?

You crack me up.

From somebody using a nym from Greek mythology to boot.

P.S. It’s well past time that this sub-discussion was taken to #spillover.

Is there any group identity that you feel does merit pride or any kind of commemoration by means of a parade or other public celebration?

Contrary to popular misconception, reason is not the primary motivator of human behavior.

I’m bi, but I’m NOT a member of the queer community. ‘Queer’ is a horrible word to my ears and I don’t see why I should put up with you calling me that. Also, just because I have a certain sexuality doesn’t mean I’m part of some mythical community. I’m part of the normal community, thanks.
Début de l'événement 26.12.2022
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Formation du Comité de pilotage

Formation du Comité de pilotage

Début de l'événement 21.05.2024 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement 21.05.2024 - 17:00
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Forum de l’orientation et de la formation à Valréas

Forum de l’orientation et de la formation à Valréas

Début de l'événement 11.01.2025 - 10:00
Fin de l'événement 11.01.2025 - 16:00
Adresse url https://valreas.net/events/forum-de-lorientation-et-de-la-formation/
Adresse Salle du Vignares
Code postal 84600
Ville Valréas
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Forum des métiers et de l’orientation à Saint-Paul-Trois-Châteaux

Forum des métiers et de l’orientation à Saint-Paul-Trois-Châteaux

Début de l'événement 18.01.2025 - 09:30
Fin de l'événement 18.01.2025 - 17:00
Adresse url https://www.forum-des-metiers-saint-paul-trois-chateaux.com/
Adresse Espace de la gare , place du 14 juillet
Code postal 26130
Ville Saint-Paul-Trois-Châteaux
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From Catfish to True Love: Lessons from Virtual Romance

From Catfish to True Love: Lessons from Virtual Romance

Description I understand your argument and I agree that any mandated paid parental leave would be an immense cost. There already is a parental leave of sorts. Look into Family and Medical Leave Act leave ( http://www.dol.gov/whd/fmla/ ).

Twelve workweeks of leave in a 12-month period for:

the birth of a child and to care for the newborn child within one year of birth; the placement with the employee of a child for adoption or foster care and to care for the newly placed child within one year of placement;
to care for the employee’s spouse, child, or parent who has a serious health condition; a serious health condition that makes the employee unable to perform the essential functions of his or her job;
any qualifying exigency arising out of the fact that the employee’s spouse, son, daughter, or parent is a covered military member on “covered active duty;” This is unpaid leave so the damage inflicted on the employer is only through lost productivity (I’m not trivializing the loss, just saying it could be worse). Basically the employer is forced to let the employee stop working for 12 weeks (3 months!) and cannot replace them in the meantime. From my own workplace observations it is not unusual for low-skill/low-wage employees to max out their FMLA every year… because they’re having another illegitimate child literally every year. For a low-wage single mom it is no problem to miss three month’s pay because they have: food stamps, subsidized housing, Medicaid, an earned income tax credit, and most likely child support. Like or Dislike: Thumb up 2 Thumb down 0 David M. Green August 30, 2014 at 09:58 RE: “While I’m not usually a proponent of socialism,…” It was the Anti- Socialist’s, Conservatives and Libertarian’s such as yourself who helped to pave the way for the Corporate Take Over of America and the resulting destruction of the Middle Class and Impoverishment of the Working Class. My advice is to stop whining and complaining about the very bed your hands helped to make that you now have to ly in; and follow the maxim: When the going gets tough the tough get going! Like or Dislike: Thumb up 0 Thumb down 2 Chris August 30, 2014 at 15:29 Bill, one of my sons had colic. He’s 19, and I still remember. You Might Be Interested TO Read Also:*
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Modern Male Emasculation
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Début de l'événement 29.11.2022
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Game or Player? Unpacking the Relationship Blame Cycle

Game or Player? Unpacking the Relationship Blame Cycle

Description The Wingwoman
Change You Can Believe In: Yourself
Quick to Pass Judgment
Why Some People Hate Valentine’s Day
I’m Single on Valentine’s Day
My Secret Social Identity
What Exactly Is Dating? It’s Ambiguous.
Why Love Is Not a First Sight Thing
Chivalry Makes Women Feel Good
Relationship Experts: Hate The Player Or The Game?
The Double Standard of Men and Women
The Double Standard of Men and Women
The Double Standard of Men and Women
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I’m curious if your opinion would be different were the roles reversed; if I had been the one to ask that we wait, and she reassured me continuance was preferred, should I have told her to go fuck herself? Would her actions be considered manipulative? The concept that women don’t want/need/enjoy sex as much as men do is as archaic as the idea that women who are comfortable satisfying their lusts, are easy. I for one am eager to see both go the way of the dinosaurs.

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JFB

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18Themis March 5, 2010 at 1:17 PM
In light of the additional details, the situation was not as it first appeared in your post. I think the necessity of brevity while writing an interesting piece overlooked the specifics of her behavior you just mentioned and changed the tone of the situation, so in that case, it does appear that you continued a flow rather than forcing it.

I think if the situation were reversed, my opinion would not change. Only, she would have been labeled as a tease had she not continued and a man would be labeled as – well, hm, has a situation like that ever really happened? :) Anecdotally, I have many male friends who were in that position, sex was offered on the 1st date, and even though they didn’t particularly like the female or have any intention of seeing her again, they grabbed the low hanging fruit. To them, it was scratching an itch, to her it was expressing a perceived connection that left her texting them in vain for weeks. Obviously this isn’t a SRS and the lack of communication confounded the issue.
Début de l'événement 19.12.2022
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How Ne-Yo's 'When You're Mad' Got It All Wrong

How Ne-Yo's 'When You're Mad' Got It All Wrong

Description Observations About Dance and Modern Relationships
The Savvy Woman’s Guide To Decoding Men On Twitter
The Kind of Woman a Man Never Forgets
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99 Remedies For the Relationship Impaired
Riding In Cars With Girls
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From a technical standpoint, this is actually one of Jay-Z’s better albums. His subject matter and production is as complex and diverse as it’s ever been, and his flow hasn’t lost any of its signature effortlessness. Aside from his perfunctory forgettable track with his wife, nothing on MCHG is skip-worthy.

Yet, if I had to rank favorite Jay-Z albums, MCHG would finish last. As stated earlier, Jay-Z’s main draw has always been how good he was at convincing you he’s as rich as he currently is. But now, when the person finally matches up with the persona, the persona ceases to be as compelling, and the music ceases to resonate. The level of cognitive dissonance needed to be a serious rap fan is no longer necessary when listening to an album made by a person who no longer has any need for hyperbole. After at least a dozen listens, there’s no doubt Jay-Z is the only rapper who could have made MCHG. Unfortunately, there’s also no doubt that MCHG is the only album this Jay-Z—a maven salesman with nothing left to sell—can make. It’s not elevator music as much as it’s music made by (and for) people with elevators in their homes.”

I wrote this three years ago, as the beginning to a post about Erykah Badu’s Window Seat video. Aside from adding my own interpretation of Badu’s motives for creating this video, I somewhat condescendingly imply that her diehard fans are incapable of being objective when assessing her work.

I felt the same way while attending an event at the Andy Warhol Museum last weekend. That Warhol was a visionary deserving of all lauds and accolades is undeniable. But, the visit just reinforced the fact that when certain people reach a certain stature, anything they do is accepted as genius, including some things that garner “Wows” when they should be receiving a chorus of “WTFs.”

I guess you can argue that status is earned. If a newly found, ketchup-stained napkin with Warhol’s signature on it is able to command 1.6 million dollars at an auction, this says more about the transcendent force of Warhol’s talent that anything else. His resume allows him to receive the benefit of the doubt.

But, the person actually making that purchase allows himself to be gamed by a person’s name instead of making an honest assessment of the actual product. And, not only are they lying to themselves, they perform the worst type of self-delusion—one where a person is completely aware of the lie they’re telling themselves, but they’re completely sold on selling it to themselves anyway. They’ve fully bought in to the bullshit, and when you buy bullshit that you literally saw drop out of a cow’s ass, you have no integrity. You make yourself a slave to a person instead of what that person creates and/or what they represent.
Début de l'événement 27.11.2021
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How to Handle Different Parenting Styles Without Destroying Your Marriage

How to Handle Different Parenting Styles Without Destroying Your Marriage

Description He Cheats on Me During Business Trips
He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym
He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me
He Didn't Know How to Listen to Her
He Flirts Too Much
Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons
Separate Vacations Don’t Have to Mean Divorce
Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?
Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn’t Want Kids
Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage
First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means
Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid


So that leads to proportionate to income paying on dates, more or less. Any time a guy pays more than that post bang, he’s signaling he’s a beta provider type guy, and makes himself less sexually attractive to her. Maybe attractive as a good dad, but as for me, no thanks.

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Mr. Traditional
April 6, 2011 at 2:44 pm #
As a man I always expect to pay for dates – and for the most part that is how I like it. My rule is: I offer to pay, or just go to pay it. If the girl offers to pay I appreciate it and pay it anyway. If she insists twice – she pays it.

I don’t like it if the girl reads the check. If I’m paying, it is a gift because I like you, so the cost should not be a concern for her.

Some women insist on splitting everything or on alternating who pays. I’ll tolerate the alternation thing – but I don’t like it.

I won’t tolerate check splitting on a regular basis. It is unsexy to be splitting things down to the dollar level like that.

I like feminine women which is why I like paying for dinner dates. I know it makes you feel special – so it is my pleasure to treat you.

And of course I do the asking, I open doors for you, I buy you nice things on valentine’s day, your birthday, and christmas. I pay for our weekend getaways.
Début de l'événement 17.03.2022
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I Make-Out With My First Bonafide 9

I Make-Out With My First Bonafide 9

Description Should Single Guys Use Emoticons
Leaving the Ghosts of an Ex Behind
Bitchiness as a Defense Mechanism: Lessons from Blogging About My Ex
Can You be Friends With an Ex?
The Men We Know We Have No Future With…
Men Who Ghost Before the First Date
No Strings Attached is Bullshit.
Do Women Really Want Equality In Relationships?
Your Best Friend the Hag
Why Being Single Doesn’t Suck
Rules For Hanging Out With Your Ex
How to Approach Guys in a Bar
How NOT to Approach A Guy In A Bar
8 Facts about Cheating

I was at the club with Poker Playing Engineer and Tall Spanish Guy again. A couple of clubs. Across the street from each other. We were bouncing back and forth, the one with much cheaper drinks also had much less women, so we’d hit that one, grab a couple, down them and then bounce back across the street.

Hey, I’m on a budget here.

Night hadn’t gone too well…. a couple of decent sets that I was able to get onto the dance floor. One fight I almost got in, because I bumped into a guy and spilled his drink. He wanted me to pay for another one. I shrugged him off and went on with my life.

I had one black chick I thought was a real good set. I had her on the dance floor and had her asian friend pawned off onto Poker Playing Engineer, but when I went for the make-out, I got a rejection coupled with the “I have a boyfriend” line.

To which, I said something stupid like, “where’s your boyfriend?”

She said, “at home.”

I said, “exactly. he’s not here” and tried to make out with her again. At this point, she stopped dancing with me and went and grabbed her friend off of Poker Playing Engineer and that was the last I saw of them. Oops.

The night was ending uneventfully. Tall Spanish Guy had already left and Poker Playing Engineer were about ready to leave by about 3am. We were heading out the door, when a two set I couldn’t pass up walked by me.

I look at Poker Playing Engineer, “hold on man, let’s go approach them.”

“I thought we were leaving.”

“Yeah, we are. One more set, if it doesn’t go anywhere, we leave. What’s the harm in trying?”

“Alright,” he gives in.

I barrel back after the two set. Approach them both and interrupt their conversation and casually place my hands on each of their shoulders to get their attentions. I talk for a bit, introduce myself and then bring my wing in, isolate my target, chat with her and then extract her to the dance floor.

At this point, I can’t tell if she’s Asian or Hispanic. Doesn’t matter. She’s gorgeous.

I talk to her some more while I dance with her, she’s 19. She’s tiny as fuck. Damn her waist is so small, I can’t stop grabbing it.

A couple of songs in and we’re making out. I hit her with the dirty talk in her ear and she makes out with some more, then pulls back and grabs her phone and lifts it up and turns the light on.

“Hold on, I want to see what you look like…” she says.

After she looks me over with her cell phone light, she goes back to making out with me. I number close her now, early, and then extract her back off of the dance floor. Then, back to the dance floor. Leading her all around for no real reason at all.

More dancing, more making out, more “I’m going to fuck the shit out of you” type of talk and she’s loving every minute of it.

But, eventually Poker Playing Engineer blows it out with her friend and they’re ready to leave. We head out too. Call it a night.

When I get home, she texts me

Her, 3:34 am: This is [her name] what’s your name

Me, 3:48 am: Willy Wonka

Her, 3:51 am: Are you foreighn? [What? I've never gotten that one before..... lol]

Me, 3:58 am: No. I’m from [this city]… my mother is Polish though… you?

Her, 4:03 am: I’m from [some town]

I let the convo die there…. I’ll pick it up another day….
Début de l'événement 30.01.2021
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In a perfect world, people would laugh at pornography.

In a perfect world, people would laugh at pornography.

Description Settling for Mr. “Good Enough”
Can You Really Settle for Love?
Is the Modern Hook-Up Really a Threat?
How the World Makes Love
Notes On Soul Mates and Sails
What I Miss (and Don’t Miss) About My Wedding Ring
The Rise of Polyamory in Modern Society
My Mexican Summer Fling
Using Magic to Find Love
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex Right Away?
Love Addict: Do You Just Know?
The Two-Sided Tale of a One-Night Stand

The #InsomniaClub‘s theme for April was based off this New York Times story of a 13-year old girl who sent a nude photo of herself to her boyfriend. Inevitably the photo got out and spread like wildfire.

Interested in the sexual-repression side of the story, I came across this video by 1 Giant Leap, creators of my favourite film of all time, What About Me?

Two quotes that stood out to me:

You really see it in America…sexuality is so much the shadow of the culture. Because it’s not there, there’s this reverse, perverted idea is what we get to see.

and…

I’d say sexuality is out of balance in the world today, and I don’t think it’s female or male sexuality. I think in a perfect world, people would laugh at pornography, because everybody would be getting so much love, and so many hugs, and so many climaxes and orgasms that to even think of watching it would be kind of silly or redundant.

It’s a thinker…
Début de l'événement 14.01.2023
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Is It Easier for Single Dads to Date Than Single Moms

Is It Easier for Single Dads to Date Than Single Moms

Description Is He Assertive or Just Angry?
Why I’m Done Playing by Traditional Dating Rules
Modern Romance: The New Dating Rules
Can You Spot the Four Types of Men Out There?
What to Do When a Friendship Becomes Toxic
How to Take Advantage of Being Single
He Acted Like He Was Still Single
Following My Dream Nearly Cost Me My Marriage


And lastly, I have been on dates with women who are seriously only out there dating for free meals/drinks and I think of these women as escorts without the putting out part. And those women are giving other women a bad name because it’s making more men in my generation wary of paying because we wonder if the girl is only going out with us to get a meal because she has no self respect.

One girl I went out with, we had our date and she actually whipped out her wallet and demanded to pay her 50%. She thought it was bullshit that women expected men to pay, and she wasn’t a whore.

Maybe she just didn’t want to sleep with me, but I was surprised when she said, “please don’t fight with me on this one, let me pay my half.”

Sad because we had no connection or spark. But she was super cool.

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Cali Bradshaw
March 21, 2011 at 8:27 pm #
Ah yes, let me clarify, once you are in relationship land – that is a different story. And I think that has a different set of rules for each couple. This is purely in regards to the beginning dating/courtship. Sounds like you are a classy guy though, so really you don’t need this advice!

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Ricky
March 21, 2011 at 8:39 pm #
Chivalry is a definite lost act, though in the changing climate I feel there should be a class given on how to date in today’s world.
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Jean-Luc Crucifix

Jean-Luc Crucifix

Début de l'événement 20.02.2025 - 17:30
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Adresse 29 Draye de Meyne
Code postal 26110
Ville Nyons
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Let’s Boycott Tantric Sex!

Let’s Boycott Tantric Sex!

Description How Pocket-Dialing Can C*ckblock You
Attack of The Killer Ex
How To Deal With A Psycho Ex During The Holidays
Attention Mongers Crybabies and Dramaheads
25 Signals You're Not Ready For a Online Dating
5 Skills Every Man And Woman Should Master
Can Sex Be A Laughing Matter?
The Sh*t Women Say That Piss Off Men
Dating a Jersey Shore Fan
Dealing With Exes on Valentine’s Day
A Decent Girl For a Nice Guy

If you are looking for some effective and free dating advice, the best thing I can tell you right now is to avoid engaging in tantric sex with your partner if you know what’s good for you. If you ask me, tantric sex was created for women who are looking to avoid telling their male partners they cum too quickly or for women who are just too damn shy to ask their lovers to strap on a vibrating cock ring in bed.

If you’re a man and been in a relationship for a long time, you will start to notice your lady is getting a little bored with the sex. She will search online personals for tantric sex workshops and make you spend tons of money to sit in a room where you have to watch other couples around you dry hump each other while breathing in and out simultaneously and learning how to enjoy sex without ejaculating. What?!!

Men do not like having to read books on how to please their women in bed. We don’t like having slow sex and breathing in and out of our noses. Tantra sex was made for affected hipsters and STING. (which made sound a little redundant.)

We like to ejaculate. We don’t care if we can have an hour long orgasm if we bring it in internally. Why the hell would we even want that? An hour long orgasm sounds like torture and we already make horrifying faces in the 3 seconds we climax. You want to endure our goofy faces for an hour?

Let’s boycott tantric sex and have sex the good ol’ fashioned way. (Really, what’s so wrong with that?)
Début de l'événement 13.12.2022
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Making New Friends Leads to All Sorts of Opportunities

Making New Friends Leads to All Sorts of Opportunities

Description His Ex is Ruining Our Marriage
Balancing Step-Parenting and Marital Harmony
Rebuilding a Marriage in the Sandwich Generation Squeeze
A Marriage Tested by Cancer
His Business Crashed — And So Did Our Marriage
Dating a Recovering Alcoholic
Is It Weird to Date a Relative?
His Cheatin’ Heart
What’s Our Relationship Status?
Should You Give an Ex a Second Chance?
Long-Distance Love vs. Local Connection
Trust in a Strained Marriage: Letters in the Attic
Dating Rules: Smart Strategy or Outdated Nonsense?

I have a theory that if all the people who note on their dating profiles that they "love to take long walks on the beach" actually took them, there would be no need for dating services. They'd meet other people who love taking long walks on the beach, and who knows where that would lead.

But if you hate taking long walks on the beach, surely you like doing other things. So do them. Even if it's knitting, join a group and go. You don't know who's mother or sister is going to befriend you there.

My friend, Kristen, is a writer (among other things) who took to working from a table at Panera Bread over a year ago. Since she's hardly alone in this, she's since met a commercial artist, a doctor/astrologer (yes!), another writer, and most recently "two really cute guys who know all about computers." Kristen's married, so she's not in the market to meet two really cute guys, but surely somebody else is.

If time constraints prevent you from hanging out in coffee shops, don't despair. I made two lasting friends in other countries through Irish Penpals, a free service that connects you with other people of either sex (your choice, and nobody has to be Irish).

At the time I joined, I spent most winter days trapped in the house with two toddlers and was eager to "meet" a new international friend. I've been writing to Elaine in Manchester, England and Petra in Germany ever since.

Irish Penpals reports that at least one marriage has resulted from the service.

Viveca Stone-Berry, who founded Dog Captions cards with her photographer brother Richard H. Stone, recommends that you make a friend of a serviceperson through A Million Thanks (http://www.amillionthanks.org).

If you express your appreciation to someone in our military, you'll be doing a good and worthwhile thing. Good and worthwhile things often lead to more good and worthwhile things -- one way or another.
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My Morning Routine

My Morning Routine

Description Surviving a Long-Term Affair and Saving a Marriage
Transforming Communication and Parenting in a Troubled Marriage
Healing a Marriage by Confronting Insecurities and Building Trust
Religious Differences and Strengthening Marriage Bonds
The Affection Gap: Bridging Emotional Distance in a Long-Term Marriage
Workplace Dating Detours
When Blind Dates Go Wrong
Comfort Vs. Fulfillment In Modern Dating
Demanding Respect and Openness in a Relationship
Get Outta My Dating Pool
Seeking Clarity and Connection in Dating
Gym Flirting 101
Finding Balance in Love After Loss

I wanted to share with you how I start my day. I have already discussed that I am not a morning person. I do not enjoy getting up before the sun does. I do not enjoy getting out of my warm bed, crawling from under my giant down comforter and putting on cold clothes. I hate my feet being cold and getting out of bed means cold feet...therefore I'm not happy about it. I usually set my alarm for as late as humanly possible, making it impossible to snooze my alarm. I drag myself out of bed, use the bathroom, brush my teeth, re-scrunch my curly crazy hair, throw on the first set of jeans and t-shirt combo I come across, socks and shoes follow. I throw on a hoodie and grab my huge coach purse (seriously carpet bag sized with EVERYTHING in it) and then head for the door. I grumble a good morning to my grandmother and then brave the cold fall weather as I trudge to the car port.

That is me, every week day morning. I don't have to dress up to nanny. I don't have to be all dolled up. Usually I appreciate this as it allows me extra sleep time. I always have makeup necessities in my purse so sometimes I'll do up my makeup once at work. Sometimes I dress up if I have plans right after work...but these days are rare. Normally I save my makeup and my nice clothes for weekends and that's just fine with me.

Anyway, the point of this blog was to share with you something I DON'T do. I don't pay any attention to my mirror. I rarely give myself a good look, let alone take in the lovingly laminated and posted quotes on my mirror. I am mad at myself for this. I put them there for a reason. These affirmations were meant to start my day right, everyday. To send me to bed in the right frame of mind, every night. I don't do this anymore and this is my self scolding.

I had one of those day by day flip calenders and when they struck me I would rip them off and keep them in a folder for when I needed inspiration. I would write them down in a journal just for quotes from movies, songs, etc that moved me. At one point these words were so important to me that I felt I should see them everyday...so why did I stop paying attention?

Here is what I am talking about:

  • I don't think I have to say why this quote means a lot to me. I know it's kind of cheesy to have this on my mirror, but I really do believe in these words. I think it's important to remember to not waste the time we are given, to make sure our day means something, that we mean something to somebody else every single day. It reminds me to say, "I love you" every time I feel it and to say "thank you" every time I mean it.

  • Alright, the top quote was put up there in a rough time. I was quitting my corporate job for nannying, contemplating going back to school, terrified to really make a go at writing, and wondering where the heck my life was going. It was important for me to remember that my parents weren't going to be thrilled I was throwing away my degree to nanny. And that my grandmother would probably never get to read half of my writing as she'd be horrified at most of what I have to say. I had to remember that if I was happy then that's all that really mattered.

The bottom quote is meaningful because I need to remember that if I want to succeed, if I want to move forward in life that I need to try new things. That I need to make the first step and without fear of where it will take me, to live in the moment. Honestly it really is just a rewording of the quote underneath.


This quote was and still is important in making me overcome my everyday fears that seek to hold me back. The same fears I wrote about in "My Largest Obstacle: Myself". I have to remind myself non stop to getting in my own way. To just do it, do it because I can, and not worry about where it might go. It's important to remember that I can't always be perfect, I can't be great at everything, but I can sure as shit try.

So here it is. I just blogged on being more present, being more aware of the world around me, more engaged. So, how is it that I am ignoring things that stare me in the face everyday, several times a day!? I guess the task starts at home. I'm going to try and take more time in the morning to be more aware of these quotes, to go back to repeating them out loud and making sure I really "see" them.

That is my promise to myself, and if I say it out loud...or write it out loud to all of you then you will hold me to it. You will yell at me in comments to "READ YOUR DAMN QUOTES JEWELS!" and that will keep me honest and real about my task to stay more present in my own life.
Début de l'événement 24.03.2023
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Reimagining Family Dynamics for a Modern World

Reimagining Family Dynamics for a Modern World

Description More On the Nuclear Family with Children Narrative
Loosening the Chains of the Nuclear Family
Kindness and Modern Dating
How to Navigate Uncertainty in Online Dating
A Dating Suggestion to the Deeply Frustrated
Rethinking Gender Norms in Modern Dating
Obsessing About Strangers
Two Dates in One
Texts Or Calls And Dating
Men Like a Challenge
Men Want to Feel Manly
Issues with the Language of Dating Angst

Listen, I’m a single gal and though I see a wedding in my future, it’s not in the near future. I have no use for this beautiful dress. Not to mention that it’s taking up room in my tiny studio. And hello, how scary would it be to bring a guy over with a wedding gown hanging outside my closet?! So, I would love to give it to someone more deserving. Maybe you have a wedding coming up and haven’t budgeted enough for a dress, or you want to dye it and turn it into your dream prom dress, I want to hear about it. Contact me (below) and tell me your story by 10/1/11, and I will choose one person to ship the dress to.


If you know of anyone who might be interested, drop Yue a line on her blog. Also, I encourage people to go read the story behind her getting the dress - it's quite fun.

Speaking of weddings, or non-weddings, I saw a movie the other day - Away We Go - where the issue of marriage seemed quite prominent. Specifically, what I found interesting was how the woman of the main couple in the movie repeatedly turned down her boyfriend's proposals for marriage. And she's doing this as she's pregnant with their first child.

Now, there's never any sense that this couple is in trouble. That they aren't committed to each other. In fact, as the movie goes on, it becomes quite clear the filmmaker wants us to view them as "the happy ones" amongst others who are struggling, miserable, or otherwise dysfunctional. The New York Times review I linked to is quite scathing of the film's depiction, and while I agreed with some of it, I found something refreshing in featuring a healthy couple that doesn't fit the standard narrative.

However, I also found this from near the end of the Time review compelling as well:

Really, “Away We Go” is about the flight from adulthood, from engagement, from responsibility, even as it cleverly disguises itself as a search for all those things. But the dream of being left alone in a world of your own making, far from anything sad or icky or difficult, is a child’s fantasy. Not an unattractive or uncommon one, it must be said, and for that reason it is tempting to follow Burt and Verona into the precious, hermetic paradise that awaits them at the end of the road.
Début de l'événement 02.01.2023
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Réunion de lancement avec les partenaires

Réunion de lancement avec les partenaires

Début de l'événement 16.09.2024 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement 16.09.2024 - 12:00
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Réunion de préparation du Salon Vivre ici

Réunion de préparation du Salon Vivre ici

Description Première rencontre des structures intéressées par une participation au Salon Vivre ici : étudier, travailler, habiter en Drôme provençale.
Début de l'événement 06.05.2025 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement 06.05.2025 - 12:00
Adresse Maison de Pays, 128 Promenade de la Digue
Code postal 26110
Ville Nyons
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Russian Men Attraction: Unpacking Cultural Biases

Russian Men Attraction: Unpacking Cultural Biases

Description Things Men Talk About When Women Aren’t Looking
Black Men Desirability: Unpacking Cultural Biases
Women' Things Men Struggle To Understand
Going Nowhere Fast, We’ve Reached Our Climax
Are Women Too Loyal for Their Own Good
Things Black People Say?
What Really Works For Us Chicks
Words I Hope My Daughter Never Says
Why Women Get a Pass on Things Men Can’t
5 Signs That You Might Be Dating a Zombie Who Might Zombie Apocalapyse Your A**

When people think about Russian men, certain stereotypes often come to mind: rugged, stoic, fiercely loyal, or even intimidating. These perceptions, shaped by cultural biases and media portrayals, can color how Russian men are seen in the world of dating and relationships. But what’s the truth behind these assumptions? Let’s unpack some of the common cultural biases surrounding Russian men and explore what truly defines their appeal.

1. The Stereotype of Stoicism

One of the most prevalent stereotypes about Russian men is their supposed stoicism. Popular culture often depicts them as emotionally reserved, prioritizing practicality over sentiment. While it’s true that Russian culture values resilience and emotional strength, this doesn’t mean Russian men lack warmth or depth.

In fact, many Russian men express their emotions through actions rather than words. Loyalty, dedication, and an unwavering commitment to family and friends are often how they show love. This quiet yet steadfast nature is something many find deeply attractive, as it offers a sense of security and dependability.

2. Misconceptions About Dominance

Another common bias is that Russian men are overly dominant in relationships. This stems from traditional gender roles that have historically influenced Russian society, where men were often seen as protectors and providers.

However, modern Russian men are increasingly challenging these outdated norms. While many still take pride in being dependable and taking initiative, there’s a growing recognition of the importance of equality in relationships. This balance between strength and sensitivity makes them unique partners, capable of adapting to changing times while retaining traditional values.

3. The Allure of Cultural Pride

Russian men are deeply connected to their heritage, often embracing the rich history, literature, and traditions of their homeland. This cultural pride can be magnetic, offering partners a glimpse into a world filled with deep-rooted customs and values.

However, this pride can sometimes be misunderstood as arrogance. The reality is that Russian men value authenticity and hold themselves to high standards, which can be misinterpreted by those unfamiliar with their culture.

Conclusion: Beyond the Biases

The attraction to Russian men lies in their complexity—a blend of strength, loyalty, and cultural richness. By looking beyond the stereotypes, it becomes clear that their appeal is not rooted in myths but in their authenticity and depth. True attraction starts when we unpack biases and embrace individuals for who they are.
Début de l'événement 03.12.2021
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Salon Vivre ici : étudier, travailler et habiter en Drôme Provençale

Salon Vivre ici : étudier, travailler et habiter en Drôme Provençale

Description Un salon réunissant de nombreuses initiatives et institutions locales à destination :

  • des entreprises et employeurs locaux souhaitant mettre en vitrine leur offre
  • des familles et apprenants souhaitant se former, étudier sur place
  • des demandeurs d'emplois cherchant des pistes locales
  • des porteurs de projets et nouveaux habitants souhaitant s'installer, entreprendre ou encore améliorer leurs vies sur place.
Début de l'événement 19.11.2025 - 10:00
Fin de l'événement 19.11.2025 - 20:00
Adresse Maison de Pays
Code postal 26110
Ville Nyons
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SEX in Seattle?

SEX in Seattle?

Description An Ode to Emily
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances

It’s URGENT.

“Hey,” he’s playing it smooth. I almost buy it. “It’s me. Call me.”

Only two face-to-face meetings with what was supposed to be a textbook one-night-stand and he’s already thrusting himself into the familiar. Thank GOD it went straight to voice-mail.

… one hippopotamus… two hippopotamus… three hippopotamus… BINGO!

Text #1: HOW DOES SEATTLE SOUND?

… one Mississippi… two Mississippi…

Text #2: FREE TICKET + FREE HOTEL = NICE LITTLE WEEKEND.

… holy… shit…

Text #3: NEXT WEEKEND?

It’s plausible, but is it palpable? Two meetings. One hook up. Mr. Write chides me hourly about my “no strings attached” mantra.

“Everything’s got strings attached somehow,” he grimaces. “It’s just a matter of what kinds of strings are attached and who they’re attached to.”
Début de l'événement 08.01.2022
Fin de l'événement 08.01.2022
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Should I Wait For Him To Get His Money Right?

Should I Wait For Him To Get His Money Right?

Description 3 Deadly Strategies To Use Against Cockblockers
What Does Your Price Imply About Your Value?
How To Be With 4 Women At The Same Time
What Is The Worst That Could Happen?
11 Step Prep For A Night Out
The Number 1 Way To Have A One Night Stand
Disregard White Women - Acquire Currency
14 Dating Do’s And Don’t
Things I Learned From Being the Other Woman
How to Heal From A Break-Up
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All the break-up feelings.
The Most Important Dating Lesson
Anatomy of Date: After.

Recently, a few of my friends have come across the sentiment that men don’t want to even date seriously if they’re not in a certain place financially. Can you explain whether this is really a thing or an excuse to avoid commitment? And if it is a thing what types of markers do men need before they can feel comfortable progressing in a relationship?
Curious About Men And Cash

Dear Curious,
As anyone with a TV and internet access is aware of, there’s a well-publicized epidemic of singledom plaguing the Black community. In comparison to 50, sh*t, even 20 years ago, less of us are getting married, and the people who are getting married are waiting longer and longer to do it. And, it’s not like the want to be coupled up isn’t still there. If this was true—if people just didn’t want to be together anymore—How to Spell Like You’re Always Writing From a Flip Phone would the only book Tyrese would be able to publish.
(Personally, I don’t think this—less and less people getting married—is a completely bad thing. Marriage/parenthood isn’t for everyone, and the more people ill-equipped for marriage and parenthood that realize this, the better.)
But, while everything from men wanting to extend the player card as long as possible to the feminist movement are cited when people ask why contemporary men may seem more reluctant to commit, from my experience the most common thing stopping men from being commitment-minded is the tenuousness of many of our job situations/finances. Basically, (most) men don’t want to entertain the idea of starting something serious unless the rest of their life is in order.
One of the reasons why men 40 and 50 years ago were ready to settle earlier was because you could just graduate from high school and walk into a job at a plant or a steel mill and make a pretty decent salary. Those types of jobs don’t exist anymore, and despite whatever changes there may have been in gender roles and relationship dynamics, (most) men still want to be able to provide for their loved ones, and won’t enter something serious unless they feel they’re at a place where they’re settled enough to reasonably feel that they can hold things down if they want to.
(Also, “settled” doesn’t just mean financially secure. Basically, if a guy is making a decent salary at a bank, but is thinking about going back to school to be an engineer (or rapper), he’s not settled yet.)
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Single Girl Survival Says

Single Girl Survival Says

Description Why Is Self-Esteem Important For Dating?
Top Free and Paid Online Dating Websites
Seizing New Dating Opportunities
The Perfect Movie Date at Home
Single Men Don’t Have Body Image Issues
What Makes a Good Man or a Good Woman?
Equating ‘Sexuality’ with Male Sexuality
Why in the World Would I Ever Get Married?
How Jealousy Can Work For Us
The Catalano Generation is Revolutionizing Dating
Mexico City's Short-Term Marriage Proposal
Even in Relationship You’re All Alone
I Lack the Commitment Gene
Stop Crying and Be a Man

I am here to bring you some interesting news about Single Girl Survival.

My friend, Leigh, has decided to come aboard Single Girl Survival and help me write exciting stories about love, dating, relationships, sex and life in general! She has lots of great stories from the trenches of the Hollywood scene, and lots of great advice complete with the same cynical and sarcastic sense of humour as I do.

Let’s all welcome her aboard! I will be sure to clearly identify which of us are writing which posts so you can follow our stories and rants in a sequential order. There may even be site changes on the way, who knows what kind of exciting things are in store for the future!

I appreciate all of you out there reading my single girl rants! Muuah!

On a similar note, I want to send a little shout out to one of my recent ‘admirers’, because it sounds to me like he needs a little extra love. His name is ‘DRD’ and his comments to my blog posts are listed below. I am not sure how to respond to any of them because they seem a little off topic, so instead of approving the comments, I will dedicate this post to you so that you know I love you too! ;)

Like Father, Like Daughter
You are full of contradictions, arn’t you. And you say that we, the man, are confused? I’d say that this is a two-way street, hey, we confuse you and you confuse us. What fun we are having. Here is a mommy phrase for you: “Get a life”.
Dating Tip for Guys Who Want to Get Laid
Well, that was worthless! We already know that “girls” have an ego the size of Paris and wants the size of Macys.
Frogs and Holidays
When might you forget and forgive those match makers and get on with your life as you see fit?
signed: a man
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Situationships: When You're More Than Friends but Less Than a Couple

Situationships: When You're More Than Friends but Less Than a Couple

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Also I started dating a married man in the same situation I was in a few years ago and I have to say, men are wimps lol. This guy is so controlled by is wife and such a chicken about her. He’s afraid to go out without her calling him. Kind of feel like he went out with me to spite her, a little act of rebellion but his own private rebellion she will never know about. I feel sorry for him because he IS in a loveless relationship but so afraid to destroy his children with is admirable but given that I lived that for 4 years well I think he’s just a coward. I don’t understand why anyone would stay in a miserable, sexless relationship for more than 5 years. Apparently it was never great in the sex department, ever, but he’s so used to it until recently he started thinking about sex, just sex. He’s a nice guy, a good guy but I also wonder if his wife isn’t using sex as a weapon to either punish him, control him or perhaps like me, she doesn’t love him either and just too chicken to say anything. When we love someone we are supposed to be in love with them as well as in lust with them. Its how we got into the position of marriage anyway. I know I was totally in love and lust with my husband until the day I decided this had to end. I can’t understand anyone being married and not having sex? WTF is that? The best thing about marriage is all the sex you get with your hot amazing partner right?

That’s all I have to say whether anyone thinks I’m wrong or not.

NoSexNoMoreLove2 years ago
Sad that this guy is literally dumping his feelings to a stranger on some dating/hookup app than to his wife or better yet a therapist. I really hope that the women on there stick to their guns and no one gets with him. Sigh….losing faith in men altogether, but esp the married ones with the wandering eye! Gross!

HesBarkingUpTheWrongTree6 years agoReply
Crazy, right? I just felt like I needed to understand why married men troll dating sites.

Emily Macintosh6 years ago
Congratulations sweetheart. There is a club for women who expect marriage or the woman, or both, will somehow change a man. Its called Divorce.

DeeGee6 years ago
I don’t think anyone or anything can change a person.
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Surely, abducted by aliens

Surely, abducted by aliens

Description Marriage vs. Memories: Can We Declutter and Stay Together?
Marriage Under Stress: Navigating Parenthood and Mental Health
The Silent Strain: How Unspoken Needs Led to a Marriage Crisis
Marriage on the Rocks: Navigating the Challenges of Illness and Expectations
From Disconnect to Connection: Rebuilding Marriage After Fear and Fatigue
Living Together Was So Much Easier Than Being Married
The Ultimate Guide to Successful Online Dating
Smack and Marriage Don’t Mix
Why Dating Feels Like a Game and How to Win at It
How to Date Without Losing Yourself
How to Decide When Relationship Feels Platonic
Is Your Dating History A Dealbreaker?
Ratting Out a Cheater

Any guys out there – question for you. And women, of course I’d love your insight on this as well.

Background: Great Smile and I had what seemed to be a really nice, six-hour date last weekend. Fun, flowing conversation. Some very nice kisses.

A few days passed. No word from him. I decided to throw caution to the wind, sent a light, breezy e-mail, including some information he’d asked for on the date.

More days pass. Still nothing. Part of me got a bit worried – maybe something happened to him, run over by a garbage truck, perhaps? Well – unless someone else is logging onto J-date for him, he seems to be alive and well, considering he logged on today.

I get it. After only two dates, he certainly doesn’t “owe” me an explanation. And yet – how do you go from e-mailing almost every day for two weeks to NOTHING?

Common courtesy? Not so common, apparently, in the wonderful world of dating.

Sigh. Guys. I wrote this to CJ earlier today:
This "dropping of the face of the earth" thing -- I can understand if the guy is in his 20s. But this one is in his late 30s -- he should know better. Dillhole.

Her hilarious response:
I think dropping off the face of the earth knows no age. Only knows penis.

[DISCLAIMER: I’m certainly not putting ALL guys in that category – and yes, I know women can be flaky as well.]

Moving on! Currently in talks with some decent-sounding new J-guys. It remains to be seen if any of them push my buttons. Somehow, I remain optimistic.

UPDATE:
In a "why not" moment, I e-mailed Great Smile this morning -- asked if he'd want to get a drink next week, to "let me know either way".

He wrote back shortly after... apologized for not being in touch, and that while he had a nice time last weekend he's not "feeling the love, and doesn't want to waste anyone's time".

I wrote back simply, "thanks for the update, wish you the very best". Of course, what I really wanted to know was, WHY bother kissing me til 1 am if you're not "feeling the love"??! (unless of course, he thought he was going to get more than just a few kisses)

Anyway! Right now I have too many potential J-guys on my platter... I'm starting to forget what I've told to whom. Must take better notes.
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The Importance of Date Nights: Prioritizing Your Relationship

The Importance of Date Nights: Prioritizing Your Relationship

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He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat
He Lost Interest in Our Marriage
Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job
He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I'm Sick of It
Commitment Jitters
Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance
Bi Bi Love
Dealing With Your Partner’s Bedroom Confessions
Can His Squalor Be Squelched?
Asunder Down Under
Conquering Long Distance Dating
Coveting a Coworker

Cali Bradshaw
October 28, 2011 at 3:26 am #
Aw Kelsey, you are the best! You know, it’s funny, but when people leave harsh comments, I doubt they realize how hurtful they actually are. When I write a saucy post, it isn’t about one person, or it isn’t addressed to that one person at least. But when I get personal comments, it makes my tummy hurt a little bc people who don’t know me at all, are making comments about who I am as a person. At the end of the day, this blog is supposed to be fun, so when someone tells me that I need to get over myself or I’ll be single in my 30s, (and that is not nearly as mean as many comments) it really bums me out. But when I then see that I have a reader (you!) defend me, when you don’t even know me, seriously makes my night. Thank you for making me smile and reminding me that I am not alone in wishing for a quality man. XO. -Cali

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Kelsey
October 29, 2011 at 12:40 am #
Ever so welcome. I dislike posts started just for the sake of causing drama. This is not high school. Believe me, I know, because I’m still in one half the day. :P

Haha aw to be young again! I wish I was still in HS. Those were the days!


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Well, honestly I think you were a bit unfair yourself. While it is not ok to make assumptions about you (or anyone else for the sake of being), the post that you’ve just made may easily be interpreted as provocative. You clearly addressed a whole lot of guys in that post, the ones that frequently use abbreviations and emoticons after which you described them in a derogatory manner, making comparisons to being twelve years old.
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The Long Road to Accountability: Redefining What Men Should Do

The Long Road to Accountability: Redefining What Men Should Do

Description Three Men To Avoid At The Bar
About Bad Guys And The Women Who Love Them
The Gangsta’s Guide To Watching Chick Flicks
When Your Valentine is Your Daughter
How To Date Like A Psychopath
What Women Find Irresistible
What Exactly Makes a “Good” Parent?
Who’s the No. 1 Woman in a Man’s Life?
Spouse or Parents…or Kids: Who Rank “First?”
We All Know That Black Girls Do That Right?
Modern Male Emasculation
The Surprising Power of a Simple Word in Dating

When you come back in January, there will be some very noticeable changes with the site. Won’t go into detail about what exactly that’ll entail, but yeah. Things will just be…different. The filming and editing process with our TV Pilot is almost complete. Although the site won’t be active for the next couple of weeks, our Twitter and Facebook pages will still be updated.

We’re also going to start distributing the gifts promised to those who contributed. Those should be coming in the next few weeks. Book #2 is in the works. Won’t give away too much about that yet, but will say that it has, um, something to do with this.

*If you find yourself missing words written by VSB over the next couple of weeks, you can always find me at Ebony.com and Madame Noire and Panama at Guyspeak

That’s about it, folks. We hope everyone has a safe and happy holiday experience, and if the world doesn’t end in the next couple of days, we’ll see you all in 2013!

1. I made the decision to write full-time a little over a year ago. While the transition hasn’t always been smooth, I maintain that it’s the best choice I ever made. The successes we’ve had at VSB collectively and I’ve had personally have been documented, and 2012 is shaping up to be even better.

I’m bringing this up because all of this success has undoubtedly made my already large head even bigger. I’ve become more secure in my voice and my ability to articulate, amuse, and entertain, but with that came an arrogance that leads to days like yesterday.

I think I can (and should be able to) tackle any topic, so when I was browsing through different websites Monday afternoon, looking for something to write for Tuesday, I came across Zerlina’s article about rape, read the comments, and naturally thought “I think I’ll offer a (slightly) dissenting viewpoint. I might upset a couple people, but it’ll be no big deal. They (our readership) know and love me already, so the people who do happen to get upset will forget all about it by 3pm Tuesday afternoon.”

I was wrong.
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The R&B Song That Taught Me About Being 'In Love'

The R&B Song That Taught Me About Being 'In Love'

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Single Men Who Want More Women
Open Letter To Men Who Want More
For Men Who Love Poly Dating
Progressive Love Applauds Too $hort
Is Love the Most Feared Emotion?
Love Kills Self Love & Self Esteem
Are Nagging & Cheating Equally Damaging?
Why Do We Fall In Love? Is It Healthy?
Why Master Monogamy

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epoche* August 30, 2014 at 05:15
So how could Foucault not see this existential threat to himself? Hatred. His hatred of Western Civilization & Capitalism was so blinding & all-consuming that he was blind to the danger. He merely saw the application of the maxim, “The Enemy(Islam) of my Enemy(The West) is my Friend” without considering there is an alternative: “The Enemy of my Enemy might be my Enemy too…”

Feminism shares this blinding existential hatred as well…
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To someone such as Foucault someone such as Khomeini was a savior because he represented a leader of a different power structure that would overthrow the power base where he detested. He wasnt interested in anything more than that.

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epoche* August 30, 2014 at 06:20
This has nothing to do with anything on this board but why have Mens Rights people not utilized Kickstarter or Indiegogo to raise funds?

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Uncle Elmer August 30, 2014 at 06:47
But here in the US we have serious gender crimes.

Senator Kirstin Gillibrand, up and coming femist politician determined to get Hillary Clinton elected to the presidency, has a published a new tell-all with details about humiliating sexual harassment at the hands of senate colleagues :

http://time.com/3197103/kirsten-gillibrand-senate-sexism/

Note “concerned female martyr-hero” pose in front of American flag.

As she is promoting legislation to change the military justice system based on flawed statistics about sexual assaults in the military, it makes sense for her to claim personal harassment as part of her overall marketing strategy. She should name her tormentors or shut up.

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There’s nothing inherently immoral about naked pictures.

There’s nothing inherently immoral about naked pictures.

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The Unforgettable First Kiss
Jealousy Versus Envy
Love Addict: The Pregnancy Dilemma
How Do You Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want Help?
Most Radical Relationship Books On the Market
We Hold Ourselves Back
What Happens When You Actually In Relationship??
Is a Same-Sex Encounter Important in Living Holistically?
You’re a Selfish Bitch and That’s Why You’re Not Married
Learning How to Love Yourself
Love Addict: Writing the Personal
How Do You Learn to Let Go?

Oh, good grief.

immorality itself is a social construct.

Next you’ll assert that there’s no such thing as truth.

This.

If you took a man who lived alone his entire life I doubt he would not be able to tell the difference between an immoral and a moral act.

Morality (from the Latin moralitas “manner, character, proper behavior”) is the differentiation of intentions, decisions, and actions between those that are good (or right) and those that are bad (or wrong). The philosophy of morality is ethics. A moral code is a system of morality (according to a particular philosophy, religion, culture, etc.) and a moral is any one practice or teaching within a moral code. Morality may also be specifically synonymous with “goodness” or “rightness.” Immorality is the active opposition to morality (i.e. opposition to that which is good or right), while amorality is variously defined as an unawareness of, indifference toward, or disbelief in any set of moral standards or principles.[1][2][3][4] An example of a moral code is the Golden Rule which states that, “One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself.”[5]

There’s nothing inherently immoral about naked pictures.
1) It harms nobody.
2) It’s not always sexual.
3) Context is everything.

This is easier than you think. Some of my experiences:

It’s easier with girls I’ve met on OK Cupid who are 30 or younger, usually 26-23.

Secondly, i usually adopt a sexual frame off the top.

After we swap photos, I usually say

Me: Interesting, you look too innocent.

Her: Innocent?

Me: Yah…

then take it from there.
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THIS IS SERIOUS, SHE’S MY SOULMATE!

THIS IS SERIOUS, SHE’S MY SOULMATE!

Description Marriage vs. Addiction: Winning the Battle for Love
Marriage Without Intimacy: Can Love Survive the Distance?
Holding On or Letting Go: When Addiction Tests a Marriage
The Marriage We Almost Lost: How Unemployment Changed Everything
Marriage And Chaos: Finding Common Ground in Parenting
He Seemed Interested. So Why Didn’t He Call?
Online Dating Isn’t Desperation
Changing Your Dating Approach
Why Modern Dating is More Complicated Than Ever
Dating Someone With Debt
Marriage vs. Parenthood: Life After Having a Baby
The Fine Line Between Casual Dating and Commitment
How to Handle the Truth After Discovering a Betray

So……yeaaaaah. Really strange night. I mean, his whole idea is like ‘if you can successfully control yourself and — somehow — turn around a situation where people just fucking hate you on principle….what can stop you?’ Anyway…it was a really weird night. As you can imagine….my AA was in serious overdrive. Ted forced me into a set two girls, three guys, and it was fucking ridiculous. Liiiiike, there was this raunchy auburn haired cowgirl who probably called me a nigger like a bajillion times, and I mean….I just didn’t know how to handle it. She also asked insane questions, like ‘how big is your cock?’ ‘would you like me to suck that nigger dick?’ She was a 5…but the set was mixed, so I had literally NO CLUE how to fucking handle it. I was a Scraymouse.

Ted is some sort of insane person. Like…one of the dudes at one point was like ‘this goddamned anchor baby beaner,’ and Ted throws his head back, ‘yeah, all right, gomer pyle, bob hope eat a dick whoever the fuck you are…’ and everyone laughed their asses off.

My question now….I mean, that was an extremely uncomfortable environment for me. But at the same time…like, Ted just handled it like a goddamned champion. Is there something to his theory, or is Ted insane…or both?

Saturday:

I lost my ID at CW bar. I was planning on not going out, but there was an event at a club that 90% of the school social circle were attending. So…why not? I snag a paper copy of my driver’s license from my job and just decide to run a gambit.

It works, and I get in to the club with everyone else.

Only one set, and really, it’s a girl I somewhat know already. She’s been with two of the guys in my social circle already. She’s like a 6.5. I talk with her at the bar. So, my new thing that I’ve been trying out has been break-up/make-up. It goes really well with ‘I love you.’

Earlier, I had told her friend that I was going to spread a rumor that she was engaged to an Argentenian wiffle ball player named Rodrigo. So, I tell 6.5 to make sure she goes back to her friend and asks about Rodrigo. Then I just am like, also, tell your friend that I’m in crazy mad crazy love with her. And 6.5 laughs, and I’m like ‘THIS IS SERIOUS, SHE’S MY SOULMATE!’ Her eyes widen, and she nods.
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What’s in a marital status, anyway?

What’s in a marital status, anyway?

Description He Went to War and Came Back a Changed Man
Unmasking Hidden Unhappiness in Marriage
Workaholic Heartbreak: When Success Costs Your Marriage
Recession Realities: When Financial Stress Tests a Marriage
When Unemployment Tests Marriage
Movies That All Women Should See To Understand Men
Love Lies and Responsibility
The Dating Mishaps of the Ladies of Love Twenty
The Black Male Preference Privilege
Anatomy of a Great (Reality) Relationship
Your Rear End or Your Pride
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
(Broken) Laws of Attraction

“When are you getting married?”

“You have a new boyfriend yet?”

“Don’t you feel alone on weekends?”

Being single in a couple’s word is not easy. I wonder why people keep judging others so much by their marital status. Yes, singles are on the rise, more people are getting divorced and more and more people are now considering the fact of living and staying alone. Yet it’s still a couple’s world out there, and many still believe that single = looser. But who says us singles can’t enjoy life? There is so much to look to when you’re alone. Being single is ME time and should be enjoyed to the fullest. So don’t fall into the ‘I have to get married’ mindset and start appreciating what life has to offer, with or without a partner.
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When it rains...

When it rains...

Description Marriage vs. Memories: Can We Declutter and Stay Together?
Marriage Under Stress: Navigating Parenthood and Mental Health
The Silent Strain: How Unspoken Needs Led to a Marriage Crisis
Marriage on the Rocks: Navigating the Challenges of Illness and Expectations
From Disconnect to Connection: Rebuilding Marriage After Fear and Fatigue
Living Together Was So Much Easier Than Being Married
The Ultimate Guide to Successful Online Dating
Smack and Marriage Don’t Mix
Why Dating Feels Like a Game and How to Win at It
How to Date Without Losing Yourself
How to Decide When Relationship Feels Platonic
Is Your Dating History A Dealbreaker?
Ratting Out a Cheater

Truly – when it rains, it pours. I have quite a few dates lined up in the near future – there’s a chance that I may become overwhelmed – or at the very least confused as far as what stories I’ve shared with whom. But at this point, I’m feeling quite flirty and non-committal, so my plan is to have fun while it lasts.

The current lineup:

Earlier this week, I went on my 106th first date since my last serious relationship ended three years ago. Date #106 was with Fun Bobby – it was a very easy-going, good time. I felt as if I’d known him for longer than the few hours we spent together – but I wonder if I’m projecting – he looks a little like my friend, Good Hair Guy. (I’ve given him this moniker of “Fun Bobby” because his profile indicates that he’s a little unsure if he’s looking for a serious relationship right now – I’ve considered myself warned!)

Within a few days he e-mailed to say he’d had a lovely time, and asked if I was free to get together again this weekend. Plans are in place.

Then there’s Good Voice – date number two is set for next week. I can’t help but compare him to TC, who was in limbo with his career, and felt that that translated to his overall life (including dating). GV is very much together – quite successful, in fact – and this is refreshing in comparison. I certainly would never date a guy just because he was well-off – but I feel that I’ve reached a certain level of success in my career, so it’s not unreasonable to want the same in a potential partner. (obviously, he has many other qualities that I like – otherwise, I wouldn’t be considering a second date with him!)

Another newbie is Neighbor Dude, who lives just a few blocks from me. Good connection so far via e-mail and during first phone convo – plans are in place for this weekend. It’s hard to get a read on his pics – one is rather attractive, the other, less so.

Then there’s U.N. – remember him, from last summer? We’ve been in touch recently, and have plans for a drink next week. I have a feeling this will be a platonic get-together – BUT I liked him as a person that last time (just didn’t feel that ‘zing’) – I’m willing to take another chance to see if there’s any chance of zing. If not, he’s the kind of person I could see keeping as a friend.

One more: the FOF – Friend of a Friend (note: I initially gave him a different name, but worried that it might be too identifying). Background: we had one date last month, but he said he needed more time “off” after his recent breakup. I respected that, and appreciated his honesty. I wrote to him recently with a work-related question – after a few e-mails, we made plans to meet for a drink next week. I’m going into this with the mindset that it may just be platonic – but if something were to happen? That would be a nice bonus – I can’t explain it, there’s something I like about this guy. Maybe it’s because we have a friend in common, which makes him less anonymous than the guys I meet through the internet?

Oh – I have my eye on one more: I’m going to call him McLovin. My friend C is friends with him, and thought he’d be my type – when I checked out his MySpace page, I immediately fell in “like” with his pictures (as much as a sane 30-something reasonably can!). Great head of hair, nice smile, that Jewish New York look that I tend to go for. I just need to get more info on him. (C, if you’re reading this – let’s discuss soon!) There may be a possibility of a group outing in the near future – less pressure that way.

More thoughts / details on serial dating to follow!
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Why Women Say Men Don’t Communicate While Men Say Women Overthink

Why Women Say Men Don’t Communicate While Men Say Women Overthink

Description We’re All Slutty For The Right Guy
Dear Men: This Is Why Loyalty Is So Important To Women
How Do You Avoid Dating a Liberal/Conservative?
Are You Looking For Fast Love Too?
Should You Fake an Active Lifestyle for Love?
When a Relationship Feels Like a Secret Mission
Pushing Through It
Embracing The Unexpected Path Of Singlehood
Why Is It So Hard to Believe Someone Might Stay?
Am I Crazy Or Is He A Hot Mess?

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Bad pickup lines in subways; insomnia; knuckle cracking

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You convince yourself that you need love in order to be happy, so you seek and eventually find yourself in a relationship. This lasts a few weeks, maybe a month, when you realize how much work and perhaps money it takes to be in love – so you bail. You are hooked on the honeymoon state of a relationship – those first four or five dates – but when it matures into something of meaning and responsibility, you’re outta there. You can’t take rejection, and when it happens you pursue that person with increased gusto, fueled by your father’s story of how he landed your mom with sheer determination. This never really works out for you, though. When in a relationship, you consider the “relationship” a third person that you both need to heed and acknowledge. The problem is, you have deep hatred for this third person causing you to murder it (the relationship) immediately. You are the type that makes New Year’s resolutions, and follows them, until you forget what they were two weeks later.

I once saw a cat try its damnedest to murder a nun. The cat, with whom I eventually formed a synergistic, if not loving, relationship due to long term co-habitation, was an asshole, but he was an entertaining asshole, and never did learn that if he concentrated on chasing the laser pointer, he wouldn’t notice that he was gaiting full tilt towards the wall.

But he was an asshole. Face it ladies, all cats are, even the girl ones. Which is why it is time for you all to face facts: no matter what we say to women of the world, us boys do not like your cats. Whats that, you say? Every boy you’ve ever brought home has said he liked Mr. Fluffykins? You can’t possibly be that naive. He was trying to get to your kitty through your pussy.

Boys don’t like cats. Case in point, you’ve never met one who owns one who wasn’t at least a bit… off. Cats don’t even like cats. What, you have two? Maybe they’ll put on a little pussy-on-pussy show to get a treat, but the minute your back is turned sister, it’s all fur and fangs, and not in a good way.
Début de l'événement 11.03.2022
Fin de l'événement 11.03.2022
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Women Don't Trust Men, Women, or Anyone—But Why?

Women Don't Trust Men, Women, or Anyone—But Why?

Description Parenting and Relationships
Navigating Honesty in Modern Relationships
What Men REALLY Mean: A Guide for Women
How To Be Single And Sober
How A Glass Of Water Can Destroy Your Love
When Love Ignore Red Flags and Common Sense
Why You Shouldn’t Live Together Before Marriage
Shallow Men: A Big Waste
Real Relationships You’ll Never See In A Movie
What Men’s Behavior Reveals About Masculinity
My Problem With Church
Trust Issues: Why Women Don't Trust Men

Real talk, this special is NO worse than a show full of women cavorting around town tossing drinks on another whose SOLE accomplishment is having either been knocked up or “wifed” by a man who has questionable decision making skills but raw athletic talent. And lord knows there’s very little redeeming value to Real Housewives of Any City. I’m not saying the shows aren’t entertaining, but what can you take away from those shows? They’re just drama and pop culture sayings.

And it’s a special. A look at a unique family situation that seems to be…working. Just pretend Mike Wallace is involved and there’s a ticking clock in the background.

I’m not big proponent of T.I. and Tiny’s show, but you know what, at least you get to see a family man and a man who deeply cares about the upbringing and morals of his children. In fact, T.I.’s show ruins his albums for me. And that’s the same principle I have to apply to “All My Babies’ Mamas”. Now, I’ll concede that the only thing I’m basing this on is the 13-minute trailer for the show (since removed – maybe the angry protests are working) which I was prepared to hate but by the time it was over, I was like, “well, damn, this might actually be a good show or at least worth watching.”

While we can lament that he’s got all of these children, as long as he’s taking care of his brood then what else can we say. The kids are HERE already. And from the looks of the trailer, it actually seems somewhat compelling. You’ve got these 10 women who all seem to know and follow some baby mama hierarchy and almost respect it. They all know each other and and hang out to some degree. And what’s most important, they have established some sort of actual family structure. Who can’t get behind that?

In fact, the most disturbing part of the show was the rather…um…aesthetic variance of the women with whom L-O has chosen to procreate. Forget birth control, he needs stronger glasses. But you know what, that could be his taste and who I am to begrudge that man his tastes. Hell, they’re his skeletons, not mine.
Début de l'événement 26.11.2021
Fin de l'événement 26.11.2021
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You have a great attitude, girl.

You have a great attitude, girl.

Description The Top 10 White Lies People Tell In Online Dating Profiles
Things I Wish I Knew About Dating When I Was 22
8 Reasons You’re Single
Let’s Talk About Negging
What Are Your Pre-Date Nerves?
10 Things You Should Never Say To A Man In Bed
8 Things Men Want Women To Do In Bed
9 Things I Dread About Dating
I Wasn’t Jewish Enough

Emily Macintosh5 years ago
You have a great attitude, girl. But really not to worry, there’s a good chance there will be some PFC Macintosh Jr.’s running around in the not too distant future. Just have to make it over to the west side at some point to make it happen. I agree with Kelly and clj to a point. Perhaps having your own biological children is not in the cards for everyone, but for those who have the desire, fostering/adoption/big bro or sis is a wonderful way to literally save a child’s life while also fulfilling a need that resides in almost every soul. In my younger years back east, I was a big brother to two boys who lived in dreadful circumstances. As stupid as this sounds, I was inspired by the a cliche movie that Keanu Reeves did way back when about an inner city little league team. Right then I decided to get off my ass and give back a little. It was a most rewarding experience and I got to help two kids through an otherwise unguided adolescence, coach some baseball and just try to help two kids have a semblance of childhood as I knew it. It would be arrogant to compare it to parenting, but I now have two little brothers for life and Lord knows it’s been rewarding beyond description. For me, the experience affirmed a belief that, should biological children not be in the cards, I could love and raise a child that was not my own biologically just the same. In some ways, a child you take in will be even be more rewarding and more bonded than a biological child, because those children will eventually know exactly what was lost and what they have gained. So my travel schedule and insatiable enjoyment of the fairer sex has not been conducive to starting a family as yet, but it just goes to show that many people, even some you might not suspect, have a lot to give to the unwanted children in this world. Where I diverge in my opinion with clj and Kelly is that, for the vast majority of people, they can tell themselves all they want about a fulfilling life without children; however the cold reality is that 99% of us want/need the companionship of a family, the laughter of children, the unconditional love that goes two ways and fulfillment you simply cannot get without it. You can be a big brother, you can be a cool aunt, you can be an inspiring teacher – but none of these things is a substitute for what the soul really needs. Emily, I always champion your efforts at love, and every yo yo who reads this blog knows you are the real deal. So I’m not worried about you as much as you might be right now. Things will turn your way and will happen quickly when they do. Maybe even with your boy Single Steve, but more likely with PFC, or a reasonable facsimile. Keep on truckin’ Em.
Début de l'événement 25.02.2021
Fin de l'événement 25.02.2021
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